Neighbours - omg

Tea_Pea_Dee

Very hard to see where the defining boundary is.  It could be where the downpipe is, in which case he is encroaching on your land, and his rosemary bush is as well   I would get my big girl's pants on and, take brother if necessary, knock on his door and ask politely if he could move them back on to his land. They are recently planted, so easily moved.  You could even ask him to reseed your grass to cover the holes, if your big girl's pants are XXXXL   I am woman on my own, and I would have no hesitation in telling him.  “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” . (Eleanor Roosevelt)

gwynlas

If the houses are identical then the boundary would presumably be mid way between the window and marked by the downpipe.
I would take a string line from the mid point of the downpipe to the path in order to mark the boundary. Once thiis is marked it will   show whether the conifers sit oon the boundary or not. If they do then inform neighbour that you do not want roots entering your garden and that you never agreed to mark boundary with a hedge, 
It looks as though the arrangement you had with previous neighbour allowed lawn to be mown as one without fiddling around at the base of trees.. If he wishes to mark the boundary of his lawn in any way then fenceposts or hedge should not intrude into your garden.

Davesnave

gwynlas said:

If the houses are identical then the boundary would presumably be mid way between the window and marked by the downpipe.
I would take a string line from the mid point of the downpipe to the path in order to mark the boundary.

Good strategy, but if you count the bricks, the downpipe isn't central.

Lamb for Sunday lunch? The rosemary looks like it's volunteering....

Mojisola

Davesnave said:

gwynlas said:

If the houses are identical then the boundary would presumably be mid way between the window and marked by the downpipe.
I would take a string line from the mid point of the downpipe to the path in order to mark the boundary.

Good strategy, but if you count the bricks, the downpipe isn't central.

It's likely that the boundary is four whole bricks in from each window which means the downpipe is just on the OP's side of the boundary.

lovehedgehogs

Tea_Pea_Dee said:

Very hard to see where the defining boundary is.  It could be where the downpipe is, in which case he is encroaching on your land, and his rosemary bush is as well   I would get my big girl's pants on and, take brother if necessary, knock on his door and ask politely if he could move them back on to his land. They are recently planted, so easily moved.  You could even ask him to reseed your grass to cover the holes, if your big girl's pants are XXXXL   I am woman on my own, and I would have no hesitation in telling him.  “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” . (Eleanor Roosevelt)

Thank you - I’m just not confrontational! 

mollycat

lovehedgehogs said:

Thank you - I’m just not confrontational! 

Having seen the picture, I think your neighbour is taking the absolute p...mickey!
He's actually planted those conifers on your land by the look of it, ridiculous.
Seriously, (as anxiety provoking as it is), you need to make a stand at some point, the sooner the better.
Unless you are going to accept having a much smaller garden than you should do, those plants need moved.
Find out where the boundary is legally, and get it marked, even with a small picket type thing.
You 100% have my sympathy, and i wish you well, but honestly your future self will be all over you if you continue to be passive regarding this. 
Again.....good luck!

Dedekind

Can't you put a fence? By the looks of the interactions so far, it seems you will benefit from some sort of separation. Otherwise you can be forced to have to look at the guy every time you go outside. Fences solve this (I have some neighbour stories, don't want to spoil your thread by sharing, but the plan for us is to put a higher fence than the little 1m thing there is now).

Davesnave

Dedekind said:

Can't you put a fence? By the looks of the interactions so far, it seems you will benefit from some sort of separation. Otherwise you can be forced to have to look at the guy every time you go outside. Fences solve this (I have some neighbour stories, don't want to spoil your thread by sharing, but the plan for us is to put a higher fence than the little 1m thing there is now).

So long as a fence doesn't front onto a road or public footpath you can go to 2m max, but there may be covenants on some estates forbidding front garden fences, which can actually cause disputes, even if no one will enforce them. There's also the issue of making one's home look like a fortress, as a person near me has done.

Its something to tread carefully with.

lovehedgehogs

mollycat said:

lovehedgehogs said:

Thank you - I’m just not confrontational! 

Having seen the picture, I think your neighbour is taking the absolute p...mickey!
He's actually planted those conifers on your land by the look of it, ridiculous.
Seriously, (as anxiety provoking as it is), you need to make a stand at some point, the sooner the better.
Unless you are going to accept having a much smaller garden than you should do, those plants need moved.
Find out where the boundary is legally, and get it marked, even with a small picket type thing.
You 100% have my sympathy, and i wish you well, but honestly your future self will be all over you if you continue to be passive regarding this. 
Again.....good luck!

Thank you. You see what I’m dealing with. He’s called me ridiculous. Pedantic. Blah blah. I have had lots of therapy so I know how rhetorical phrases work 😊 but my tummy still does somersaults!   

lovehedgehogs

Dedekind said:

Can't you put a fence? By the looks of the interactions so far, it seems you will benefit from some sort of separation. Otherwise you can be forced to have to look at the guy every time you go outside. Fences solve this (I have some neighbour stories, don't want to spoil your thread by sharing, but the plan for us is to put a higher fence than the little 1m thing there is now).

I would lose even more especially if I have to have a straight fence!  I so wish I had........