Neighbours - omg

lovehedgehogs

thank you to everyone. You’re 🌟 🌟 🌟. Can I give you an up-date? My brother had rather a brilliant idea and got me a roll of the plastic that is used on the side of motorways to stop newts - I don’t know what it’s called. I have dug and trench of 12” (ish) and have put a piece of this tight against the conifer roots, btw the conifers are still mostly on my ground. He might have won the battle but not the war.........

Grenage

As others have said, don't be intimidated.  Let the neighbour know that he'll want to move the trees further into his garden, as they clearly won't survive when you trim down to the boundary.  After all, you don't want to lose garden space.

twopenny

I believe that if you trim a neighbours overhanging branches you must return them to him if he wants them.

That will be fun. I've often thought I would but never had the courage.

Might be a good introduction to say 'when I trim this hedge where would you like me to leave the trimmings'

You will like this article.

http://www.problemneighbours.co.uk/rights-trees-and-overhanging-branches.html

Well done for getting that stuff in at such a depth. Great idea

MoneySeeker1

Fingers crossed for you that this works out.

Just found your thread and was thinking "This will be a woman on her own" before I got to your post saying that's what you are. Bad neighbour types do try it on a lot more with a woman on her own - voice of experience type.

I've had to spend time psyching myself up to tell myself "I am not a 'woman' - I am a person. More fool them for treating me like a vulnerable little woman" and try and act just like a large well-built and well-informed man. It worked eventually and they leave me alone now.

Davesnave

MoneySeeker1 said:

Fingers crossed for you that this works out.

Just found your thread and was thinking "This will be a woman on her own" before I got to your post saying that's what you are. Bad neighbour types do try it on a lot more with a woman on her own - voice of experience type.

I've had to spend time psyching myself up to tell myself "I am not a 'woman' - I am a person. More fool them for treating me like a vulnerable little woman" and try and act just like a large well-built and well-informed man. It worked eventually and they leave me alone now.

As a man who stands 5' 4" in his socks, and now decidedly grey as well, I don't understand any of this. Women are just as capable as men in the vast majority of activities, and some do rather well as women in what's normally thought of as a man's area of expertise.

For example you could check out the 3 ladies in my sig whom I support with  financial contributions from time to time. Even as children, they decided what they were going to be, changed their parents' plans for them and worked until they achieved their goal....all without the usual corporate interference. They certainly didn't whinge about being girls!

twopenny

Not so much whinging as frustrating Dave.

If they think they can get one over on you that's the first port of call. Let them know that you know what you're talking about and they vanish.

Not all but it's darned hard work finding the ones that are straight down the line.

Davesnave

Regardless of one's sex, I think the greatest problem of being on one's own is a simple matter of not having extra moral support when neighbours try it on, especially in the first few months of becoming resident.

I live close to a private complex of 14 properties and I hear most of the gossip from there. It seems to me that regardless of who they are, newbies usually face some sort of challenge from an existing resident within a month or two of arriving. Upsetting though it might be, this does appear to be a part of human behaviour, it happens so often.

lovehedgehogs

Thank you. 😊

lovehedgehogs

twopenny said:

Not so much whinging as frustrating Dave.

If they think they can get one over on you that's the first port of call. Let them know that you know what you're talking about and they vanish.

Not all but it's darned hard work finding the ones that are straight down the line.

As opposed to the lovely conifers that are not straight down the line..... my house is on the right......

-taff

Tell them you're thinking of changing your lawn to paving stones [ you're not] so if they want to keep their conifers, they need moving. If they ask again, ooo, sorry, not enough cash now....And then put something in between you on the floor.