Rent/Bills after bf moves in

JReacher1

It doesn’t bode well for the future of your relationship that you can’t have these conversations with your BF. 

You should have sorted out matters of finance before he moved in. Getting hurt because he is not paying you anything (when you told him not to) seems slightly ridiculous. 

Gavin83

Haribo12 said:

A few months ago my boyfriend moved into my house that I own, he suggested to pay £50 a month to cover his share of the bills!! I was slightly annoyed by this as I think its quite a small insulting amount that I said its not even worth it. He now spends all day working from home as he cannot go into his office at work, so he is paying nothing to live in my home. We split the food shopping sort of equally.  Do you think I am being unreasonable that £50 is not enough? I feel slightly hurt/used that he is not contributing anything

How much are your bills a month?

HampshireH

Surely this would have been one of the 1st discussions before he moved in. Not now he's established himself and you've wound yourself up about it.

Just talk to him. Explain how much the bills cost and ask him for half. 

If he doesnt like he he can go and pay rent and bills elsewhere

Haribo12

HampshireH said:

Surely this would have been one of the 1st discussions before he moved in. Not now he's established himself and you've wound yourself up about it.

Just talk to him. Explain how much the bills cost and ask him for half. 

If he doesnt like he he can go and pay rent and bills elsewhere

He had to move in as a bit of an emergency as he was thrown out of his house. The bills are not that much however should be also pay some towards renting/mortgage aswell as bills? Or just the additional cost of him being here. He is now here all day everyday whereas I have to go into work still so therefore not here during the day

MovingForwards

Nothing towards the mortgage / property repairs / upgrades / replacement as that's walking headlong into beneficial interest in the property.

He pays towards bills and food only.

If you were in the property for a year before he moved in, why don't you see how much extra gas / electric is being used by comparing last March to this, last April to this etc.

Why was he thrown out of 'his house'?

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Haribo12 said:

HampshireH said:

Surely this would have been one of the 1st discussions before he moved in. Not now he's established himself and you've wound yourself up about it.

Just talk to him. Explain how much the bills cost and ask him for half. 

If he doesnt like he he can go and pay rent and bills elsewhere

He had to move in as a bit of an emergency as he was thrown out of his house. The bills are not that much however should be also pay some towards renting/mortgage aswell as bills? Or just the additional cost of him being here. He is now here all day everyday whereas I have to go into work still so therefore not here during the day

Half the CT, utilities and groceries, that's it unless you want him trying to claim beneficial ownership in the property if it all goes pear shaped further down the line.

74jax

Haribo12 said:

HampshireH said:

Surely this would have been one of the 1st discussions before he moved in. Not now he's established himself and you've wound yourself up about it.

Just talk to him. Explain how much the bills cost and ask him for half. 

If he doesnt like he he can go and pay rent and bills elsewhere

He had to move in as a bit of an emergency as he was thrown out of his house. The bills are not that much however should be also pay some towards renting/mortgage aswell as bills? Or just the additional cost of him being here. He is now here all day everyday whereas I have to go into work still so therefore not here during the day

I don't understand how this correlates. Why does him being thrown out equal he HAS to move in with you?
I'm guessing you offered, he jumped at chance, now is living free. Why on earth would he change it.
Incidentally my now husband had to move out of his rented place years ago with hardly any notice. He said something to me about he'd have to move in for a month as he had nowhere to go (we'd be seeing each other about 6yrs) and needed somewhere to be for just 1 month....  No way was he moving in like that - so I found somewhere for him, why don't you find other places he can go? 

pinkshoes

Haribo12 said:

 should be also pay some towards renting/mortgage aswell as bills? 

Noooooooooooooo!

Never let him contribute anything towards the mortgage or upkeep of house!! 

Just write down down what all the bills are (not mortgage) and ask for half. If £50 covers this then fair enough, but it sounds a bit low.

Kicked out of his house?? He sounds dodgy!!

AnxiousTheElephant

I moved in with my OH recently... He pays mortgage/council tax/bills and I buy food/toiletries/cleaning products. Works for us atm but if his bills did dramatically increase I would offer to contribute. Only thing I wouldn't contribute to is his mortgage as when we get a joint place that would go towards his deposit.

Kim_kim

Haribo12 said:

HampshireH said:

Surely this would have been one of the 1st discussions before he moved in. Not now he's established himself and you've wound yourself up about it.

Just talk to him. Explain how much the bills cost and ask him for half. 

If he doesnt like he he can go and pay rent and bills elsewhere

He had to move in as a bit of an emergency as he was thrown out of his house. The bills are not that much however should be also pay some towards renting/mortgage aswell as bills? Or just the additional cost of him being here. He is now here all day everyday whereas I have to go into work still so therefore not here during the day

You said rent earlier, now you say rent/mortgage - which is it?