Rent/Bills after bf moves in

Haribo12

A few months ago my boyfriend moved into my house that I own, he suggested to pay £50 a month to cover his share of the bills!! I was slightly annoyed by this as I think its quite a small insulting amount that I said its not even worth it. He now spends all day working from home as he cannot go into his office at work, so he is paying nothing to live in my home. We split the food shopping sort of equally.  Do you think I am being unreasonable that £50 is not enough? I feel slightly hurt/used that he is not contributing anything

Marvel1

Split all bills 50/50:
Council tax
Electric
Gas
Water
Broadband
TV licence
TV services you both use

Sorted, if he doesn't like it, then bye bye.

Fireflyaway

Maybe he just doesn't understand the cost of living? From one point of view I can see that your light / heating / water etc are not going to increase loads due to an extra person being there. In the evening watching tv you would presumably have the tv on and the light and heating anyway. 
However from the other angle, why should he get a ridiculously cheap deal? That doesn't seem fair. If he wants to be fair then split everything in half. All the bills and your house payment. Not sure how to bring that up though!

Emmia

Marvel1 said:

Split all bills 50/50:
Council tax
Electric
Gas
Water
Broadband
TV licence
TV services you both use

Sorted, if he doesn't like it, then bye bye.

Completely agree - £50 a month is frankly insulting. 

If he'd prefer to pay you a fixed monthly amount, rather than a constant "you owe me X for the bills" I'd sit down and work out what it is costing you per month (you might need to do a bit of rounding up), then tell him you'd like that as a fixed monthly amount.

This is what me and my husband do as the bills all come out of his account. I transfer a fixed amount to him each month automatically - we have a spreadsheet where all the bills are recorded, and periodically (3 or 4 times a year) we the check the numbers are fine, and I adjust the number up and down as needed.  

Of course, if he doesn't like that option either, then it's also probably bye bye!

Mojisola

Set up a household account and both pay equal amounts into it.  Use it to pay the bills and do the shopping and any other joint stuff.

Emmia

Mojisola said:

Set up a household account and both pay equal amounts into it.  Use it to pay the bills and do the shopping and any other joint stuff.

Setting up a joint account would mean the OP would be formally financially linked to her/their OH - I know people (me in my younger days!) who in the relatively early stages of a relationship (even if living together) prefer to be separate in relation to this. 

BookmobileBadGirl

So you told him not to bother paying you anything, and are not feeling hurt/used that he isn't contributing?

eamon

Can I move in as well it would be a bargain for me £50 + food, easy street or what!?

Mojisola

Emmia said:

Setting up a joint account would mean the OP would be formally financially linked to her/their OH - I know people (me in my younger days!) who in the relatively early stages of a relationship (even if living together) prefer to be separate in relation to this. 

It doesn't have to be a joint account, just an account ring-fenced for household spending.

MovingForwards

£50 may or may not be the right amount, but how can you be annoyed you are not getting anything when you said it's not worth it and didn't revert with a figure at the time or shortly after. In reality, numbers / money should have been sorted out before he moved in.

Does he do anything round the house, eg housework, gardening etc?

Do you still want to be with him?

I would do it as:

Council tax - anything over single person discount

Electric, Gas, Water, internet, TV licence / sky etc, food - 50%
Or
Electric, Gas, Water, internet, TV licence / sky etc - you pay
Food - he buys

Dates / take-away - alternate who pays

mobileron

Looks like u got a cheapskate dump and get a real man.