April 2020 - loss of loved one and dealing with aftermath...

badger09

hb2 said:

I hope that everything went smoothly for you today.

My Mum specified that she didn't want people wearing black to her funeral, so OP wearing pink doesn't fill me with horror at all.

Agreed. My late sister's favourite colours were red and purple, so we asked everyone attending her funeral (in 2018) to wear something in one of those colours. Even the most traditionally minded managed to find something appropriate. She would have loved it!

74jax

Gers, badger09, cbrown372, hb2 - thank you all. 😊

What a day! The sun was magnificent and made for a glorious setting. There was a hiccup in that my brothers car decided to go into 'limp' mode and wouldn't allow him to go over 40mph so he arrived every so slightly late but we just delayed leaving the house by 5mins.

What was lovely was people in street standing on their doorsteps to pay their respects.

It was hard to keep 'in line' with the coffin as cars just pulled out in front of us (no obvious funeral cars I expect...)

My brother used the graveside for his 15 minutes of fame and gave an amazing send off to mam.

It was very strange to be stood separately but not awkward how I thought it might be, very dignified. We were called up one by one to place soil on the coffin, we couldn't line up.

The reverend said the Lords Prayer then quickly left, I didn't even get to speak to him....

We were asked to leave the cemetery shortly after, I think we stood around a little too long....

First thing this morning I emailed the reverend our thanks and the funeral directors. They were amazing with such difficulties. I honestly felt for them throughout all this, doing the job they love in such heartbreaking circumstances each day. My makeshift flowers looked fab, and the video was so well recieved by family last night.

Today...... I have a death certificate! So I'm going to contact the 3 banks to close those down and do gas / electric today.

Pollycat

Great job, 74jax.

As I said on t'other thread - your positive attitude will get you through.

I'm sure your Mam approved of your pink dress.