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You don't like people claiming benefits, but in turn you are giving away free money to rellys who haven't earned it
Spend your cash, have holidays enjoy life, or you will die and they will all be squabbling over it
'Wander' - to walk or move in a leisurely manner.
'Wonder' - to feel curious.
my MiL was fully funded by the state in a nursing home and she was still allowed to go out, give gifts and even give to charity (if that was her usual habit and in line with her means).
there is also the fact that if you draw out cash for say Christmas presents, then who is to know what it’s for?? I’m not suggesting benefit fraud here just that there’s a massive grey area. If you transfer a house it totally traceable and obvious. If you draw out an extra £20 a week then who knows what is goes on? You might not even keep records yourself.
i think it’s a bit of a red herring unless it’s deliberate.
i would ask though, why are you helping your families if they are much more able to help themselves? They are younger and if they are struggling they should stand on their own two feet and get an extra job or two rather than take your money, especially if you are having issues yourself.