The Nice People No. 17

SingleSue

vivatifosi said:

The clapping was lovely. It is strange, I've lived here 14 years now yet don't know many of my neighbours. However they were all out on their doorstep. Similarly loads of people are helping each other and the street has a mutual support Facebook page.  There could be some societal good that comes out of this madness.

Hope your sister gets better soon Sue.

Mum and dad's road have set up a Facebook page but because mum and dad don't have Facebook I have joined up on their behalf. This weekend they are having a driveway disco where one neighbour will be playing records/tracks in their driveway and the other neighbours will be safely in their own driveways and maintaining social distancing (there are no shared driveways or side by side ones).

We've also got a Facebook page called Helping Hands, to help those without Facebook there was a major leaflet drop (well before restrictions came into place) and surgeries are also sending text messages to those on their books advertising the group and with the number to call. The group now has over 400 volunteers and are helping so many people with shopping, picking up prescriptions, travel to appointments, delivery of food parcels (via what was our old disability hospital transport bus) and telephone support for those who are isolated and lonely and just want to hear a friendly voice. It is all highly organised, people are checked, hand and vehicle hygiene is rigidly adhered to and no cash or electronic money is given to the individual helper, so no worries about someone taking the money and running.

SingleSue

GDB2222 said:

I’m not sure how it would help Sue's sister to have a diagnosis of CV? Would she be treated differently?

For my sister, it would help to know she hasn't got it so that she wasn't going mad with worry that she has given someone else a potential killer. Right now she is going through a mental hell as she was/is an essential frontline worker who has dealt with hundreds of people over the last fortnight. A negative result would also mean that she could then have a hug from her husband and continue in her care of her young autistic daughter who is really struggling with the current situation.

Of course, a positive result could make things worse for the guilt she feels but at least then some contacts could at least be warned and not just shrug an illness off as 'just a cold' and isolate themselves from loved ones and vulnerable people.

Doozergirl

Pyxis said:

vivatifosi said:

The clapping was lovely. It is strange, I've lived here 14 years now yet don't know many of my neighbours. However they were all out on their doorstep. Similarly loads of people are helping each other and the street has a mutual support Facebook page.  There could be some societal good that comes out of this madness.

Hope your sister gets better soon Sue.

Yes, it was nice for a couple of minutes to be back in the world again and joining in with other people, as well as to give the NHS staff a message that would hopefully give them a bit of a boost, and it made coming back in and putting the lid back on the box more bearable.

Until, that is, I read some of the posts on a dedicated thread, which put a negative slant on this tiny little show of appreciation, and completely flattened the bit of uplift I’d experienced only minutes earlier.

Take yourself away from that.  If it's negative, remove it. 

No one needs it.  

Pyxis

Doozergirl said:

Pyxis said:

vivatifosi said:

The clapping was lovely. It is strange, I've lived here 14 years now yet don't know many of my neighbours. However they were all out on their doorstep. Similarly loads of people are helping each other and the street has a mutual support Facebook page.  There could be some societal good that comes out of this madness.

Hope your sister gets better soon Sue.

Yes, it was nice for a couple of minutes to be back in the world again and joining in with other people, as well as to give the NHS staff a message that would hopefully give them a bit of a boost, and it made coming back in and putting the lid back on the box more bearable.

Until, that is, I read some of the posts on a dedicated thread, which put a negative slant on this tiny little show of appreciation, and completely flattened the bit of uplift I’d experienced only minutes earlier.

Take yourself away from that.  If it's negative, remove it. 

No one needs it.  

Yes. I’m not so bad this morning, but I was really upset last night.
Then out of the blue I got a round robin email (sent to a large group, not just me), from someone in the thick of it saying how much they appreciated the clapping and what a boost it gave them and fellow workers, so that serendipitous email helped a lot!

Cakeguts

Been out shopping. A very long queue I had already estimated before we went that the queue might be about 1 hour.  Anyway got in eventually and did a big shop for us and some fresh food for our neighbour across the road. She sent a list.

Fridge is full. We are trying to limit the number of times we go shopping. It is the first time that I have really been able to do it.

Now I am back I can get down to some really serious listening to a really nice interesting piece of music.

Doozergirl

That's awesome, PN.   There's always a positive.  

And cheaper houses at some point for you, I suspect.  Maybe a low supply, but there's potential.  

Pyxis

Cakeguts said:

Been out shopping. A very long queue I had already estimated before we went that the queue might be about 1 hour.  Anyway got in eventually and did a big shop for us and some fresh food for our neighbour across the road. She sent a list.

Fridge is full. We are trying to limit the number of times we go shopping. It is the first time that I have really been able to do it.

Now I am back I can get down to some really serious listening to a really nice interesting piece of music.

Coprolitic mass.

Cakeguts

Pyxis said:

Cakeguts said:

Been out shopping. A very long queue I had already estimated before we went that the queue might be about 1 hour.  Anyway got in eventually and did a big shop for us and some fresh food for our neighbour across the road. She sent a list.

Fridge is full. We are trying to limit the number of times we go shopping. It is the first time that I have really been able to do it.

Now I am back I can get down to some really serious listening to a really nice interesting piece of music.

Coprolitic mass.

I was waiting for that.... Well not that exactly but something in the theme....

Pyxis

Cakeguts said:

Pyxis said:

Cakeguts said:

Been out shopping. A very long queue I had already estimated before we went that the queue might be about 1 hour.  Anyway got in eventually and did a big shop for us and some fresh food for our neighbour across the road. She sent a list.

Fridge is full. We are trying to limit the number of times we go shopping. It is the first time that I have really been able to do it.

Now I am back I can get down to some really serious listening to a really nice interesting piece of music.

Coprolitic mass.

I was waiting for that.... Well not that exactly but something in the theme....

🎶 “Getting to know.....me........🎶
🎶Getting to know all...about.......me.........” 🎶

PasturesNew

Doozergirl said:

That's awesome, PN.   There's always a positive.  

And cheaper houses at some point for you, I suspect.  Maybe a low supply, but there's potential.  

There's not always positives... I was lucky this time.  
Re cheaper.... few jobs out there now... any further biding time/renting a self-contained place from June-ish onwards will definitely be "from house money".   The idea had been "Look, just do this, then get a job to cover that additional cost.... retain your pot".  Not looking like an option. 

House money now: £300k   Renting needs to be budgetted at up to £1100/month.  Say £100 council tax, £200 other bills and £800 rent.  I'll look for cheaper, but I'd prefer a "perfect mix"... a perfect mix is: 1 bed, Unfurnished except white goods.... then I could use the bedroom to store my stuff in - and get a blow up sofa to kip on   I'd still "rough it".... no point wasting time/energy unpacking everything, setting it all up to "look like a proper house" only to then have to reverse all of that ... 

Storage costs about £170-180/month, if I can get a 1 bed I'll save that.  But, I'd also like a gf place with some outside sunny space ... and, of course, off road parking  

To go cheaper would limit ability to get my stuff out of storage + they tend to be furnished.  

... but, ultimately ... I can only have what I see is available.  You can't just magic something up to your requirements because you have a list. 

Gonna wait it out for a bit further..... as I've paid here.... gives me time to look.