Money Moral Dilemma: Should my family share the cost of my more expensive ticket?

JaneHenery

You make it clear in your post that it's being split 4 ways, before you, i.e. £25 each, parents obviously paying for their own tickets (quite why people think they're being paid for by your sister I do not know). Given that she then invited you, and you are, assumably, part of the family and not a foundling they picked up in the garden, then you are entitled to expect to pay the same as everybody else, i.e. a new price of £28 shared amongst the new party of five.

These people are your family and, as such, you should get the same treatment and respect. You are not a governess or a poor relative on tolerance. It is your sister, or the rest of your family, who is being unreasonable in expecting you to pay £40 for the privilege of being invited. I'm at a loss to understand the people on here accusing you of being cheap etc, etc. There's more than one way to make someone feel like an outsider, so no, you shouldn't be "grateful to be invited". You're family, one of them, and you should get the same treatment the rest do, i.e. them caring enough to chip in to even out the ticket prices.

Pollycat

JaneHenery wrote: »

You make it clear in your post that it's being split 4 ways, before you, i.e. £25 each, parents obviously paying for their own tickets (quite why people think they're being paid for by your sister I do not know). Given that she then invited you, and you are, assumably, part of the family and not a foundling they picked up in the garden, then you are entitled to expect to pay the same as everybody else, i.e. a new price of £28 shared amongst the new party of five.

These people are your family and, as such, you should get the same treatment and respect. You are not a governess or a poor relative on tolerance. It is your sister, or the rest of your family, who is being unreasonable in expecting you to pay £40 for the privilege of being invited. I'm at a loss to understand the people on here accusing you of being cheap etc, etc. There's more than one way to make someone feel like an outsider, so no, you shouldn't be "grateful to be invited". You're family, one of them, and you should get the same treatment the rest do, i.e. them caring enough to chip in to even out the ticket prices.

Re the bit in bold:
It sounded to me like the sister of the author of the dilemma was paying because of the wording in bold:

MSE_Kelvin wrote: »

This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...
My sister bought a discount voucher for an event to take our parents to while they are visiting. It cost £100 and is for four people - her, her husband and our parents. She later invited me and bought me an extra ticket, and charged me the full £40 for it, as it wasn't part of the original deal. I think we should average out the ticket prices and pay £28 each, rather than them paying £25 and me £40. Am I being unreasonable?

That just goes to show you can interpret the same words in very different ways.

Crater

I think there are a few things to take into account here.


There's no obligation for the sister to invite the OP. Adult siblings don't have to be invited to everything. It's nice if they can be, if parents are involved.


The sister had a coupon maybe just for four people.


If she's paying for the parents, the OP ought to pay the price of his/her non coupon ticket if they want to go.


If the party is all paying for their own tickets, the OP needs to consider carefully what the results of kicking up a fuss (which I guess is how it will be seen) will be. It seems the original plan was for 4 people, and they got counted in later.


Someone said "experience is cheap at any price." Think carefully if family friction is worth a saving of £12 (or if you think there is a point that you need to make, and what the fallout might be).


Another time, ask about the cost implications before accepting an invitation to join an outing which is already planned.


The word "minefield" probably applies.