Money Moral Dilemma: Should my family share the cost of my more expensive ticket? 28 January 2020 at 7:31PM in Marriage, relationships & families 33 replies 16.4K views

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My sister bought a discount voucher for an event to take our parents to while they are visiting. It cost £100 and is for four people - her, her husband and our parents. She later invited me and bought me an extra ticket, and charged me the full £40 for it, as it wasn't part of the original deal. I think we should average out the ticket prices and pay £28 each, rather than them paying £25 and me £40. Am I being unreasonable?

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Pollycat

It depends what the agreement was when she invited you.

oldernonethewiser

If I got an "invite" to an event then I would expect to pay £0.


If it was explained that that the cost of joining the group would be £40 then it would be my decision as whether to join, at that price, or not. I wouldn't expect the others to subsidise my ticket.

chockydavid1983

Surely this was discussed when she asked you if you wanted to go?
If not, why didn't she let you know how much it was and why didn't you ask?
Has to be the full £40 as you weren't part of the original deal IMO.

Bargain_betty

Considering that your sister has paid out £100 to take your parents to this event, I think you have got off lightly.
Go along and enjoy spending time as a family.

Beauborg

If everyone is paying for their own ticket, then it should be split 5 ways.

However if your sister and her husband are paying for your parents’ tickets it should be split 3 ways between your sister her husband and you. So you’d pay £140/3 or £46.67.

Yav

Hardly a moral dilemma. You are just being cheap. You were lucky enough to be invited along. Don’t go if you don’t think it’s good value.

Pollycat

Beauborg wrote: »

If everyone is paying for their own ticket, then it should be split 5 ways.

However if your sister and her husband are paying for your parents’ tickets it should be split 3 ways between your sister her husband and you. So you’d pay £140/3 or £46.67.

Lordy!
Don't suggest that.
The author of the dilemma isn't happy with paying £40.00.

SuperPikachu

"She later invited me and bought me an extra ticket, and charged me the full £40 for it, as it wasn't part of the original deal."

Why should they pay extra if you weren't part of the original setup?

"I think we should average out the ticket prices and pay £28 each, rather than them paying £25 and me £40."


Ask then ...

PasturesNew

Annoying, but it happens sometimes.

Just pay the £40 as you'll be looked on unfavourably if you moan about it. Sometimes it's best just to pay up and grumble quietly.

REJP

No, you should not have to pay anything. Stay home and let them enjoy themselves while you watch TV. That way you save money.