Money Moral Dilemma: Should my family share the cost of my more expensive ticket?

Middlestitch

What a fuss about a few quid - the usual nonsense 'non dilemma'. If you feel strongly about splitting the cost, offer to pay for one of your parents.

PSE

As the discounted deal is not available you should pay the £40. To ask everyone else to subsidise your ticket, or just your sister if she is paying for your parents, is unfair and pretty mean. For a saving of £12 this is penny pinching anyway!

Rimron83

She is paying for your parents! Essentially her ticket is costing her £100 as she is paying for 4! You got off lightly!

Seaside_Lass

Well, this all depends on who is footing the bill for your parents. If your sister is paying the full £100, then consider yourself let off lightly at £40.
If your parents are paying their own way, then I would suggest that the total £140 could be split 5 ways so each person would pay £28.
Alternately, your parents could be asked to pay the £25 each that they were expecting to pay and the remaining £90 be split 3 ways between your sister, her husband and you.
Personally, instead of !!!!!ing about how much it's costing you for your ticket, I would be offering to split the cost with your sister - after all, they're your parents too!

Keith_of_London

Is the trip a present or a joint family outing. If a present the pay 50% of £140, and say the two of you wanted to treat your parents.

If you missed the boat on the early bird ticket then whose fault is it. Would you have paid the additional cost of all the tickets if the rest of the family missed ou if you were too late to get the early bird tickets because they waited for you-that is your real dilemma!

If you don’t want to pay don’t go and tell the rest of the family that you don’t want to go but if they want them to treat you then tell them to pay wholly for you, but you won’t enjoy it cos you didn’t pay -

Can’t see a dilemma!

iclayt

If your parents were paying for themselves at £25 each I don't think it's that unreasonable to divide the 140 between the 5 of you to pass the discount saving on to you. Doesn't hurt to ask, depending on the relationship you have with your sister.

If your parents were never expected to pay for themselves, it would be 140 between the 3 of you which is just over £46 each...so you may just want to let it go...

frugalwin

As with most of these dilemmas, the solution is simple. Stop being a tight git. Pay the £40, forget about it, enjoy the event.

£40 is less than 1/3 of the total cost anyway, and maybe your sister isn’t a tight git and her and her husband are covering the full cost of £100 so she can, you know, treat your parents while they are visiting. Not everything has to be about paying the absolute minimum every time you prise open your wallet.

John_Gray

For you, surely £40 is petty cash - the equivalent of 16 coffees at £2.50 (disclaimer: I don't buy coffees at that price!).

PS Is your sister's name Florence? Has she ever been called Cash Flo?

rach_k

If your sister is paying for your parents, I'd say you should offer to pay £56!

At £140 for 5 people, that's £28 each. You should pay for yourself and one of your parents (or half of each parent's ticket), totalling £56. Then it's a gift to your parents from both of you. Your sister would pay her £28, her husband's £28 and for one of your parents - £84.

Memajules

Are you being unreasonable?

In a word, YES!

Sounds to me like your sister bought the discount voucher in order to treat your parents, costing her £100. Those types of deals are usually only for 2 or 4 people. I’m quite sure that if she could have bought a voucher for 5 people, she would have.

If it was a treat for your parents, then regardless of whether or not you were asked if you wanted to attend, you could have offered to pay for one of your parents. That way, if you decided to go, it would cost you a total of £65 and your sister £75 - still a good deal and a wonderful gesture on your part.