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Direct cremations

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  • 2e0arr
    2e0arr Posts: 1,007 Forumite
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    Gers wrote: »
    Some of my cousins thought I was being disrespectful to my father by having a cardboard coffin - actually I was respecting his firmly held views about it. He told his brother the same thing so he could 'stand up for me' at the time although I was very dismissive of their views, especially as they hadn't seen him for years and had no idea of his wishes.

    Relatives...:(


    I want a cardboard coffin with Amazon on it, maybe return to sender not known at this address ?
    Mind you is there a weight limit for a cardboard coffin. what happens if it gets caught in a down pour with the body in it at a ceremony?
  • Gers
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    2e0arr wrote: »
    I want a cardboard coffin with Amazon on it, maybe return to sender not known at this address ?
    Mind you is there a weight limit for a cardboard coffin. what happens if it gets caught in a down pour with the body in it at a ceremony?


    https://www.thinkwillow.com/collections/coffin/products/cardboard-coffin This one I found, at random, has a weight limit of 23 stone.

    As for rain...no idea though I suspect that it wouldn't be an issue at most crems as they have canopies over where the hearse draws up. Can't comment about funeral interments.
  • 2e0arr
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    Gers wrote: »
    https://www.thinkwillow.com/collections/coffin/products/cardboard-coffin This one I found, at random, has a weight limit of 23 stone.

    As for rain...no idea though I suspect that it wouldn't be an issue at most crems as they have canopies over where the hearse draws up. Can't comment about funeral interments.
    Gers TY when my mother in law died the furneral place rang me and asked do you want her cremated or buried ? I said take no chances give her both
  • lees80
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    Gers wrote: »
    https://www.thinkwillow.com/collections/coffin/products/cardboard-coffin This one I found, at random, has a weight limit of 23 stone.

    As for rain...no idea though I suspect that it wouldn't be an issue at most crems as they have canopies over where the hearse draws up. Can't comment about funeral interments.

    A cardboard coffin getting wet isn't going to make much difference at the graveside / crem - as harsh as that sounds. It'd have to be in an awful lot of rain to impact the structural integrity of it. Interment is neither here nor there either, the grave will be filled in as soon as everyone has !!!!!!ed off for the free sarnies and drinks.
  • 2e0arr
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    maybe my sense of humour is a soggy cardboard coffin with the deceased bottom pushing through as the pall bearers carrying it in
  • CathA
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    Thank you - I'm genuinely glad you didn't find it offensive at all.

    I think whichever point of view you have, it is a heartbreaking choice to make whatever we decide

    I genuinely wish you and yours, all the very best

    As I've said, I'm very pragmatic about these sort of things; always best to have plan A, plan B if plan A fails. Would you mind me asking which company your parents have chosen please? And have they pre-paid for a direct cremation? Please don't feel you have to reply if it upsets you, I can quite understand how you feel so won't be upset if you feel you can't say. Thank you.
  • CathA
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    2e0arr wrote: »
    Actually its not illegal to buried in your own garden or land. Or Derbyshire CC says when you get the paperwork cleared you can take the body to the local crem using your own transport (not a bus) and the crem will cremate it for you.

    Genuinely laughed out loud at the bus comment. I can just see our lot turning up at the bus stop and asking for several returns and one single! Mind you, the grandkids love going on a bus, I take them on one quite a lot. One last trip with grandma........?
  • CathA
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    dirtmother wrote: »

    I do know of people who have specified direct cremation and that there should be no event at all ever. I feel that should only be respected in the most extreme of circumstances (maybe if their wish is about a realisation that there isn't anyone who would be there for the right reasons) and in the situation I am thinking of, it was a bizarre unkindness to his widow and perhaps related to his denial that he was going to die.

    The intention we are thinking of is that the family are notified when the actual cremation is taking place, have a few quiet minutes to themselves to have a think about us/he/me, a little cry in private perhaps, remember the good things etc. The ashes would be scattered at a later date, anyone who wanted to come or pop into the house to have a cup of tea/drink beforehand would be welcome, as they would be if they wanted to come to the scattering. There would be no expectation for anyone to attend if they don't want to.
  • CathA
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    Flugelhorn wrote: »
    I arranged direct cremation when mother died, assorted reasons, kids far away, foul weather, couldn't get my act together to arrange a "normal " funeral. Cost was about £1300

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    Would you mind telling me which company you used please? Thank you.
  • CathA
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    Gers wrote: »
    Some of my cousins thought I was being disrespectful to my father by having a cardboard coffin - actually I was respecting his firmly held views about it. He told his brother the same thing so he could 'stand up for me' at the time although I was very dismissive of their views, especially as they hadn't seen him for years and had no idea of his wishes.

    Relatives...:(

    Very sensible! I told my girls just get a wooden crate, fold my legs up and nail the lid on!
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