Can sister in law attend will reading?

LilElvis

Mojisola wrote: »

It would be surprising if Gran didn't have any other jewellery apart from the rings she regularly wore - those could be divided among the other family members.

And, as jewellery doesn't appear to have been specified, why shouldn't the brother be just as entitled to "significant" pieces such as engagement, wedding and eternity rings. Why shouldn't he receive one of the pieces she regularly wore?

pattycake

Marvel1 wrote: »

Grandaughters on sister in law side get nothing as a keepsake to remember her?

In our case, there weren’t any.

pickledonionspaceraider

DesperateScousewife wrote: »

I am attending. To protect my interest and those of my child/grandchild mentioned in the Will.
Sil was asking me where my mums rings are. I removed them in the hospital as mums fingers were swelling. Sil was insisting her daughter has them as a keepsake. I told her I am only daughter and I was only one who looked after mum and I am having them. Mum had previously said they were mine. But obviously hard to prove that. So sil in a threatening manner said they are part of mums estate. So it’s not going to go smoothly. :eek:

I am very sorry to hear of the loss of your Mother, I truly am, and this must be a very hard time for you all.

It is only my opinion, but I find the bit in bold, quite unsavoury, because anything could be read in to that. This is how family breakdowns happen and it is completely and utterly avoidable.

Unless the rings are gifted in the Will...they are part of the estate - I am pretty sure your SIL is correct.

I would not be impressed, if I were your Brother, at the way you are handling this, so far, I must admit.

If your Brother is the quiet type and does not want to argue, maybe his wife is doing what you are:- protecting her Husbands (and by default her) and child's interests...so you can see where she is coming from, surely?

As I said, this is a very difficult time for you,and the entire family including your Brother....so my thoughts are:- Do not make it more difficult for you all, by initiating petty squabbles about possessions. It would be a dis-service to your Mother.

I have seen first hand family breakdowns due to possessions after a death, please please do NOT let this be another one of those.

Family is more important than possessions . I hope you find a way to work this out without alienating a section of your family/or vice versa

I am sorry and I know this comes across as I am having a gratuitous dig - so I apologise in advance for that. I am just saying an opinion of how things may be perceived

Savvy_Sue

The OP hasn't been on the site for nearly a week, and I suspect won't particularly like the fact that she's not getting the answers she was expecting. However like you I hope she can see another point of view.

pickledonionspaceraider

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

The OP hasn't been on the site for nearly a week, and I suspect won't particularly like the fact that she's not getting the answers she was expecting. However like you I hope she can see another point of view.

Ahh I didn't know. I didn't realise , not sure how to tell when someone was last on here

I think sometimes it helps to hear it explained (from a person who is not emotionally involved) just for the mere fact to see where the other side are coming from - whether a person agrees or not

mattpaint

It seems clear to me that your sister-in-law is the only one who will stand up to you. If my aunt took my grandmother's rings off her in the hospital and kept them, believe me the grasping thief would be treated as such.