Can sister in law attend will reading?

DesperateScousewife

I have a very strained relationship with my brother and his very domineering wife. Mum passed away before Christmas and he has made an appointment to see mums solicitors...also her executors... regarding mums will.
Can I insist sil does not attend this meeting? She isn’t mentioned in the will at all.

TIA for any replies.

Grumpelstiltskin

There is no such thing as a will reading, you have watched too many old films.

It is up to the solicitor who he lets attend any meetings.

Sea_Shell

If you all turn up at the meeting, then it maybe the one who "causes a fuss" who's asked to leave! That may or may not be your SIL!!

If you all behave like adults, whilst there, there shouldn't be a problem.

BAFE

Sorry for your loss.

You don't have to like your sister in law, you just have to be civil and polite to her on those occasions where your paths will inevitably cross.

74jax

DesperateScousewife wrote: »

I have a very strained relationship with my brother and his very domineering wife. Mum passed away before Christmas and he has made an appointment to see mums solicitors...also her executors... regarding mums will.
Can I insist sil does not attend this meeting? She isn’t mentioned in the will at all.

TIA for any replies.

Are you attending the meeting too?

DesperateScousewife

I am attending. To protect my interest and those of my child/grandchild mentioned in the Will.
Sil was asking me where my mums rings are. I removed them in the hospital as mums fingers were swelling. Sil was insisting her daughter has them as a keepsake. I told her I am only daughter and I was only one who looked after mum and I am having them. Mum had previously said they were mine. But obviously hard to prove that. So sil in a threatening manner said they are part of mums estate. So it’s not going to go smoothly. :eek:

DCFC79

DesperateScousewife wrote: »

I am attending. To protect my interest and those of my child/grandchild mentioned in the Will.
Sil was asking me where my mums rings are. I removed them in the hospital as mums fingers were swelling. Sil was insisting her daughter has them as a keepsake. I told her I am only daughter and I was only one who looked after mum and I am having them. Mum had previously said they were mine. But obviously hard to prove that. So sil in a threatening manner said they are part of mums estate. So it’s not going to go smoothly. :eek:

Sounds a real peach for a Sil, a real gem.

soolin

DesperateScousewife wrote: »

I am attending. To protect my interest and those of my child/grandchild mentioned in the Will.
Sil was asking me where my mums rings are. I removed them in the hospital as mums fingers were swelling. Sil was insisting her daughter has them as a keepsake. I told her I am only daughter and I was only one who looked after mum and I am having them. Mum had previously said they were mine. But obviously hard to prove that. So sil in a threatening manner said they are part of mums estate. So it’s not going to go smoothly. :eek:

The rings will form part of the Estate, but if you are the sole beneficiary then they will be yours anyway once the estate is finalised. If the estate is shared then anything like the rings need to be valued and whoever takes them has that amount taken from their share.

suki1964

DesperateScousewife wrote: »

I am attending. To protect my interest and those of my child/grandchild mentioned in the Will.
Sil was asking me where my mums rings are. I removed them in the hospital as mums fingers were swelling. Sil was insisting her daughter has them as a keepsake. I told her I am only daughter and I was only one who looked after mum and I am having them. Mum had previously said they were mine. But obviously hard to prove that. So sil in a threatening manner said they are part of mums estate. So it’s not going to go smoothly. :eek:

And unfortunately she is correct

Unless your mother has stipulated in her will who they are to go to, they become part of the estate to be divided as to the terms of the will

My mum for instance has stipulated precisely what bits of jewellery go to which daughter and granddaughter Those bits not mentioned form part of her estate which is to be sold and monies divided equally between her blood daughters only

kangoora

Agreed that SiL sounds like an a$$hat however, in the absence of a specific bequest in the will for the rings, the SiL was probably legally (if not morally due to mothers statement) correct unless the OP is the sole beneficiary.

DCFC79

kangoora wrote: »

Agreed that SiL sounds like an a$$hat however, in the absence of a specific bequest in the will for the rings, the SiL was probably legally (if not morally due to mothers statement) correct unless the OP is the sole beneficiary.

Yes agreed.