Buffy takes it 6 months at a time

Jellytotts

I know everyone is finding different aspects of lockdown hard and that's bubbling up in different ways but some people need a slap if they can't see that family needs to come first.  I have a friend who told me she felt everyone let her down during full lockdown and that none of us understood how down and upset she was.  The thing is that lockdown for us was just normal life but without seeing our DDs, we don't see people everyday, we don't leave the house for days at a time and I'm always busy...I've made my life busy with hobbies/gardening/renovating all around caring for DH...I enjoy it.  So constant texts of "oh come play this new game online with me" or "I'm sorting a big zoom coffee morning, come join us" don't get answered with a yes because I've got other stuff to do.  I can't pander to everyone else.  Said friend is having a huge strop now that I didn't tell her I've been poorly...sorry, was too busy trying to keep my internal organs from coming out of my body for 5 days to worry about texting you!  Friends shouldn't be so much effort.  (bit of a rant there...sorry)

In other news, well done for cancelling some of your orders.  I went to 2 charity shops a couple of weeks ago. Picked up 2 t-shirts, 3 pairs of trousers, 2 long sleeved tops, 2 winter hoodies and a set of bedding all for £18.  The bedding and one top was 2nd hand, everything else still had tags on. The advantages of people clearing out over lockdown is the charity shops are full of great stuff and most of it is silly cheap as they want to clear stocks and get some income flowing.

Buffythedebtslayer

badmemory said:

You said on another thread that you were worrying about your mother not eating.  Don't.  Just make sure that she is drinking as much as you can get into her.  A day or so without food won't hurt anyone much but even a short time in this heat without fluids can be a bad thing (especially if she is showing any signs of dementia).  Dehydration & dementia are a very bad mix.  That is why someone with very mild demetia comes out of hospital with very obvious dementia.

She is utterly horrendous at drinking. Yesterday she had 3 cups of tea. 
Last year when she got some blood test results and was told to go to hospital as soon as possible and we spoke to the doctor when she explained how little she drank the doctor was like well that explains it and drinking more water would help massively in reducing in symptoms and helping you stay alive she still won't drink enough. 
I do things like add salad to lunch or make bigger cups of tea - but now she asks for a specific tiny mug and leaves the salad. 
I got her a bottle she can re use but she rarely even manages one of those. 
I have been sneaky, I have used emotional blackmail, I have tried soup as a starter! and water with everything but she is so stubborn. I am currently working on cereal for breakfast! 
Thanks tho XXX 

Buffythedebtslayer

Jellytotts said:

I know everyone is finding different aspects of lockdown hard and that's bubbling up in different ways but some people need a slap if they can't see that family needs to come first.  I have a friend who told me she felt everyone let her down during full lockdown and that none of us understood how down and upset she was.  The thing is that lockdown for us was just normal life but without seeing our DDs, we don't see people everyday, we don't leave the house for days at a time and I'm always busy...I've made my life busy with hobbies/gardening/renovating all around caring for DH...I enjoy it.  So constant texts of "oh come play this new game online with me" or "I'm sorting a big zoom coffee morning, come join us" don't get answered with a yes because I've got other stuff to do.  I can't pander to everyone else.  Said friend is having a huge strop now that I didn't tell her I've been poorly...sorry, was too busy trying to keep my internal organs from coming out of my body for 5 days to worry about texting you!  Friends shouldn't be so much effort.  (bit of a rant there...sorry)

In other news, well done for cancelling some of your orders.  I went to 2 charity shops a couple of weeks ago. Picked up 2 t-shirts, 3 pairs of trousers, 2 long sleeved tops, 2 winter hoodies and a set of bedding all for £18.  The bedding and one top was 2nd hand, everything else still had tags on. The advantages of people clearing out over lockdown is the charity shops are full of great stuff and most of it is silly cheap as they want to clear stocks and get some income flowing.

Yeah, you see that is also true - When I am at home I have stuff to do, and I can happily amuse myself with things for hours. I sucked at zooming. I can chat online a lot cos often I was working and could pop in and out so to speak but sitting trapped in a video meeting was not a strength. 
I shall have a look see in the charity shops. Here they tend to be super expensive but maybe they have lowered their prices.... Sorry you were ill, sounds pretty rough! XX 

Buffythedebtslayer

What do you guys think about National Savings and Insurance investments? 
https://www.nsandi.com/
I have some premium bonds but never win. I was looking at bonds? 
(do I risk it?) 
Another accidental way to save if I paid monthly? seems to work for me? 

Sun_Addict

Keeping hydrated is really important but I know elderly people struggle. Would your mum drink more water if there was a drop of flavour in it?  Although I like plain water I buy those cold brew teabags and put one in a bottle of water and keep it in the fridge then keep topping it up as I drink it. 

badmemory

I too like those cold brew teas.  But I wondered if she could be more worried about having an accident.  If so prevention could be the answer.

Singlespeeder

I've just started buying Premium bonds, got 1000 at the moment... that's essentially my Emergency Fund, didn't seem much point leaving it in an account getting 20p interest a month, at least I have a chance of £25 or more.... easy access too.
I'll be buying more as and when I can afford them ...

Buffythedebtslayer

badmemory said:

I too like those cold brew teas.  But I wondered if she could be more worried about having an accident.  If so prevention could be the answer.

Sun_Addict said:

Keeping hydrated is really important but I know elderly people struggle. Would your mum drink more water if there was a drop of flavour in it?  Although I like plain water I buy those cold brew teabags and put one in a bottle of water and keep it in the fridge then keep topping it up as I drink it. 

She wouldn't I don't think.........She is pants at trying new things. Says no to everything first off and second and third time! 
I am not sure about the accident side of things. I don't think so.  but as you say she could be avoiding it...I was saying to my sister that since the hotter weather (not the stupid heat) she has been better in herself. Looks better. I don't know. 

Buffythedebtslayer

Singlespeeder said:

I've just started buying Premium bonds, got 1000 at the moment... that's essentially my Emergency Fund, didn't seem much point leaving it in an account getting 20p interest a month, at least I have a chance of £25 or more.... easy access too.
I'll be buying more as and when I can afford them ...

I am going to think some more about it. I am not sure yet. 

Sun_Addict

Are you with the Halifax, have you looked at their Regular Saver account? You have to commit to a set amount per month for a year with no withdrawals but the interest rate is pretty good compared to a lot of others.