Crazy Cat Lady Chapter 4 - The Aftermath

Chrystal

Don't know about anyone else, but my stomach is in knots waiting to hear how everything went. Really hope it's positive for you. (((hugs))) X

wishingthemortgaheaway

Chrystal wrote: »

Don't know about anyone else, but my stomach is in knots waiting to hear how everything went. Really hope it's positive for you. (((hugs))) X

I get my hopes up every time I see a comment has been made - really hoping for a positive outcome for you CCL.

crazy_cat_lady

Hi everyone :wave: I'm home
It's pretty much the same news as the last time - small amount of progress and another appointment to look forward to. Ex didn't turn up (of course), but the judge wasn't prepared to sign everything over today. Instead there will be another hearing alongside a letter from the court saying that if he doesn't turn up next time then the court will consider making a final decision in his absence. Hopefully then that will be it (presuming he doesn't turn up) - even if he does decide to turn up I hope we can sort it out there and then. The judge asked if I wanted to pursue an order for him to be imprisoned for ignoring previous court orders (?!?!) :eek: I actually did say no - I honestly wouldn't want that for him - I just want my house, and my pension and to finally move on and start paying this debt off. It is another step forward, and now another wait of a month or two but maybe the next one will be the last one. Fingers crossed.
I had another awful night of sleep last night as well. Woken by a cat just before one then awake every hour in between then and my get up time of 6.15am. Still getting into the swing of being back in at work so I'm struggling a bit - not into it just yet. But never mind. I am at least partly prepped for the rest of the week ahead in terms of lessons and teaching. Still not sure about surviving my Year 9 class tomorrow but meh...
Nothing else to report - I'm absolutely shattered - was too tired to read or crochet last night and I suspect that tonight will be the same.
Oh, I have claimed a nsd - even though I paid for parking at court (£1.50) because that was a kind of unavoidable expense - so there

f0xh0les

Oh well, at least it is showing a pattern of his behaviour now they know he knows this is all going on, and is just not bothering to interact with it.

Next time may well be the one. Fingers, and everything else, crossed. I'll put my pompoms away for a bit.

Chrystal

Don't honestly know where the Judge is coming from.... how many times does Ex need to not turn up before they say enough is enough. :mad:

beanielou

Oh dear.
It just goes on & on

SpekySquarehead

Sorry to hear there's no major progress. It sounds like the next date will be a bit more decisive though and take you closer to the closure you need. Keep on keeping on.

Eager_Elephant

Lurker/supporter checking in....Just catching up and found you had moved to a new diary.

Fingers crossed the next court case is the last.

You so deserve happiness and a line drawn under your marriage.

Good luck with the new you and all your plans.

crazy_cat_lady

Hey EE - been thinking about you and wondering how you are and what's happening in your world. You know the deal - court drags on and on and it's baby steps forward at immense cost to me. I have been wondering if I will even be able to get a mortgage now with the amount of debt I've racked up over the past couple of years. Not that it's something I need to consider right at the moment... but hopefully not too far in the future.
I didn't report in yesterday for 2 reasons - 1. I'm exhausted this week, and 2. Nothing to report. I didn't get the computer out last night. There's still nothing to report - just work and sleep. I've had a couple of nsd's even though it's my sister's birthday today because I was already sorted with a card and gift for her.
Diet is still going well so I'm going to keep going while I'm feeling so well motivated. Second weigh in tomorrow so hopeful I might have shifted a bit more weight. I've been spending a lot of time thinking about my feelings about myself. Always thought that if I got thin then I would be happy - the reality I'm certain will not be that (if I ever get there). Someone has suggested to me that I need to look into codependency as a lot of things I say are typical of that. It stems from childhood (don't they always) and I have my fair share of hang ups from then. Need to look into a solution.

Chrystal

Just looked this up.... must admit it's an eye opener :eek: :eek: ... probably a lot of us who can relate to some, if not all, of what it;s talking about.

https://psychcentral.com/lib/symptoms-of-codependency/