Best honeymoon collection website

AlexRose

Hi everyone,

We are getting married next year and as we have already lived together a number of years we are going to ask for contributions towards our honeymoon if guests would like any suggestions for gifts.

What is the best website to collect this? I don't just want to give paypal details but also conscious that some companies could go bust and take the money collected with them? Would also like guests to be able to contribute amount anonymously if they would like.

Thanks,
Alex

74jax

I don't think giving a gift anonymously would be a good idea, how on earth would you thank them?


I think all that's needs to be said is, IF asked what gift you would like, a simple 'we have all we need, we've lived together long enough.....' will suffice. If pushed then you could suggest they contribute dollars/euros etc so you could spend on honeymoon. I think this would be the easiest way.

AlexRose

Thanks @74jax I don't mean gift anonymously, I mean gift the amount anonymously. I know there's some websites that guests can contribute towards a massage or meal on honeymoon for example, instead of just a cash donation, so I'm just wondering what the best option is as I don;t like the idea of asking for money (and won't be asking for anything) but if guests would like to contribute anything it would be nice.

gettingtheresometime

My take on these websites is that someone has to pay for the service - so if your guest gifts you say £100 then you would only receive £80 (I've made up the figures so you can get the idea)


Why would I give a company £20 when I wanted you to enjoy it?


If you would like a contribution to your honeymoon then just say that and if you don't like the idea of being so direct then get parents to spread the word.

anna_1977

We've just booked our Honeymoon with a travel agents and the guests can phone up and make payments towards it up to 2 weeks AFTER the wedding. Any money collected after we have paid the honeymoon off (12 weeks before travel) will be issued to us as a bank transfer

Robin9

Mine is a different approach - I think it's cheeky to ask your guests to pay for your honeymoon (which in reality is just another holiday for you).

Much better IMO to invite donations for (say) Breast Cancer.

74jax

AlexRose wrote: »

Thanks @74jax I don't mean gift anonymously, I mean gift the amount anonymously. I know there's some websites that guests can contribute towards a massage or meal on honeymoon for example, instead of just a cash donation, so I'm just wondering what the best option is as I don;t like the idea of asking for money (and won't be asking for anything) but if guests would like to contribute anything it would be nice.

Ah. I'm with you... ��

I hated the idea of asking for money too. Like you. we had lived together, sadly my dad was ill at the time and died shortly afterwards so it was really easy for my to say to people look in all honestly don't need anything, if you insist then please donate to the hospital dad is in. The hospital also gave us a breakdown of who donated in dad's name. We also suggested rnli as my husband kitesurfs and not everyone believes in cancer research, so we have 2 options. Or a 3rd, we really don't need anything... ��

I have a thread on the wedding board on here if interested. But the easiest way is to be honest, I don't agree with getting parents to do it, it's your gift, your guests. Take the time to thank them for asking and then direct to what you want. Either we would appreciated dollars etc or whatever you want really. If they didn't want to know, they wouldn't ask.

KatrinaWaves

Robin9 wrote: »

Mine is a different approach - I think it's cheeky to ask your guests to pay for your honeymoon (which in reality is just another holiday for you).

Much better IMO to invite donations for (say) Breast Cancer.

I'm guessing you only do charity donations for your birthdays and Christmas etc? Very selfless!

meer53

Loads of examples of poems on the internet to include with your invites to suggest people contribute towards your honeymoon ?

74jax

KatrinaWaves wrote: »

I'm guessing you only do charity donations for your birthdays and Christmas etc? Very selfless!

I think a wedding is slightly different though to birthdays. Don't get me wrong, I happily accepted any gift we were given at our wedding, I loved them all, but if I was asked what we WANTED, then we politely replied we didn't want anything. I don't think it was selfless, more a fact we really didn't.


As I've grown older too, my brother an I don't do birthday presents, not for selfless reasons and we don't give to charity instead, just I guess we don't need anything. Having said that, if we do see something we know the other would love, we buy it.

jackieblack

meer53 wrote: »

Loads of examples of poems on the internet to include with your invites to suggest people contribute towards your honeymoon ?

And all of them nauseatingly naff :eek:
Just be honest.
Don’t try to make it sound anything different than it is - most people aren’t so stupid that they can’t read between the lines.