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Mother in law taking photos of inside my house

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  • bouicca21bouicca21 Forumite
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    None of us can know whether OP is normal messy or lives in a pig sty. Whether the children are riotous and undisciplined or just normal lively ones. If MiL has pics of normal messy then showing them to her friends will just make them laugh at her.

    I wonder it a bit of team work could work? ‘ hi, MiL, today we are going to clear the ironing pile. You iron, I’ll put it away.’ Make sure it is a really big pile ... Maybe similar with washing up and washing the toys.
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    bouicca21 wrote: »
    None of us can know whether OP is normal messy or lives in a pig sty. Whether the children are riotous and undisciplined or just normal lively ones. If MiL has pics of normal messy then showing them to her friends will just make them laugh at her.

    I wonder it a bit of team work could work? ‘ hi, MiL, today we are going to clear the ironing pile. You iron, I’ll put it away.’ Make sure it is a really big pile ... Maybe similar with washing up and washing the toys.


    Happy to put the photos up for all to see ...
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    RR, nosy question: is your other half an only child?
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    RR, nosy question: is your other half an only child?


    Yes he is :-) Stands to reason shes his whole life. Especially now dad isn't here. I can understand it to a degree wanting to do everything for him. And not being able to let go. I will find it hard when its my time for sure!
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  • If she’s constantly criticising and telling off *your* children, she shouldn’t be made welcome. It’s your home and you, and your children, should feel safe there.
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    RebekahR wrote: »
    Yes he is :-) Stands to reason shes his whole life. Especially now dad isn't here. I can understand it to a degree wanting to do everything for him. And not being able to let go. I will find it hard when its my time for sure!

    Sort of explains the invasion of privacy and trying to still be the 'primary care giver' and seeking to make you look bad. Doesn't make it right or acceptable, though!
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    Is that usual for you, or did she catch you on a bad day?

    It looks like you just have no storage, so everything is "out", is your house a bit small for you?

    Do you have a system for dealing with important paperwork, as all that paperwork does seem a bit disorganised?

    I can see how if you MiL is a neat-freak, seeing all that "stuff" could set off her OCD tendancies, but that's no excuse for doing what she does.

    Its your stuff, your house, your life. If you choose the "organised chaos" look, that's entirely your choice.

    Main thing I'd ask is, are YOU happy with your "mess", or do you actually want to get on top of everything? If so, I'm sure you'll get lots of tips here on de-cluttering, if that's what you want.
    " That pound I saved yesterday, is a pound I don't have to earn tomorrow ":beer: JOB DONE!!
    This should now read "It's time to start digging up those Squirrelled Nuts"!!! :j:j:j
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    bouicca21 wrote: »
    None of us can know whether OP is normal messy or lives in a pig sty. Whether the children are riotous and undisciplined or just normal lively ones. If MiL has pics of normal messy then showing them to her friends will just make them laugh at her.
    I don't think we can comment on the state of the OP's house either.
    If she is OK with it and her husband is OK with it, they should present a united front and tell her it's none of her business.
    For the OP's husband not to support his wife is disrespectful.

    If one of my friends showed me photos of her son & DIL's home in a nasty way, I'd tell her she was out of order.
    RebekahR wrote: »
    Yes he is :-) Stands to reason shes his whole life. Especially now dad isn't here. I can understand it to a degree wanting to do everything for him. And not being able to let go. I will find it hard when its my time for sure!

    Do you mean 'hes her whole life'?
    For a man who's married with children, I'd expect them to be his whole life.
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