Money Moral Dilemma: Should I stay with my friend for free (and risk intruding)?

crmism

You don't say so, but I assume that your friend has spoken to her parents about your stay and, if that's the case, there's no need for you to be concerned as long as you don't live in their pockets and you see them only at mealtimes.

As a gesture, though, you might like to think about taking all of them out to dinner one night. I'm sure that the expense will be a great deal less than the cost of a nearby hotel or similar and, you never know, you might well be invited back another time.

Pollycat

eastcott5 wrote: »

Not enough detail - how long, where is it ,how good a friend, will you be sharing a room, will you be able to go out by yourself, is it isolated - need a car. We have lived in Spain and often have visitors - the best ones are semi independent, and that also think and offer payment - water is metered, - long baths, showers 3 times a day come at a cost. Washing things in the machine that have been only worn once (its what I do in England), don't like the milk! - septic tank - don't start me. Visitors are great actually - love showing them around, but prepare to be 'local' and have a back up.

There never is enough detail.

JayD wrote: »

Another dilemma which not only leaves us asking for more information, (so as to make an informed decision re offering an opinion), but also one where, yet again we wonder why the asker can't just discuss this anxiety (dilemma???) with her friend.



How do we know if there is an existing relationship between the asker and the parents? Where is 'abroad' ? Is it an expensive place to live/holiday? How are they friends if there is so much distance between them? Are the parents aware of and fully behind the invitation? How long would the asker be staying?



And so it goes on ... but always always always ... why can't you discuss your concerns with you friend, rather than come to a public forum???