Money Moral Dilemma: Should I stay with my friend for free (and risk intruding)?

anotheruser

They've invited you to stay.
Why not?

Surfer

Staying with someone ties you down. Use an AirBnB place as they can be very cheap and convenient.

lilmisstrouble

If she’s your friend why not just talk to her? All you have to say is ‘are you sure your parents wont mind? I’d hate to intrude’

Pollycat

lilmisstrouble wrote: »

If she’s your friend why not just talk to her? All you have to say is ‘are you sure your parents wont mind? I’d hate to intrude’

People who send in these MMDs seem to be incapable of talking. :cool:
That's the usual advice (talk) in almost all threads.

Makes total sense (to me).

lesbro

I think it is only polite to offer her parents money to cover your meals at least. I stayed in Paris in 1959 and offered my hostess as not everybody can cover the costs of an extra guest.

JayD

Another dilemma which not only leaves us asking for more information, (so as to make an informed decision re offering an opinion), but also one where, yet again we wonder why the asker can't just discuss this anxiety (dilemma???) with her friend.



How do we know if there is an existing relationship between the asker and the parents? Where is 'abroad' ? Is it an expensive place to live/holiday? How are they friends if there is so much distance between them? Are the parents aware of and fully behind the invitation? How long would the asker be staying?



And so it goes on ... but always always always ... why can't you discuss your concerns with you friend, rather than come to a public forum???

JMGLancaster

She gave you an invitation. Assuming she is an averagely intelligent human being, she will know whether or not she can issue invitations to friends to stay with her - and she will be fully aware that she is living in her parents' house. I fail to see the problem .... If there was a problem, she wouldn't have invited you!

Deborah_Mary

I lived abroad for nine years, I loved to have visitors from my own country because it helped me stay in touch with it. Your friend's parents might be looking forward to your visit for that reason - why don't you just check with her, to make sure that's the case?

eastcott5

Not enough detail - how long, where is it ,how good a friend, will you be sharing a room, will you be able to go out by yourself, is it isolated - need a car. We have lived in Spain and often have visitors - the best ones are semi independent, and that also think and offer payment - water is metered, - long baths, showers 3 times a day come at a cost. Washing things in the machine that have been only worn once (its what I do in England), don't like the milk! - septic tank - don't start me. Visitors are great actually - love showing them around, but prepare to be 'local' and have a back up.

Pollycat

eastcott5 wrote: »

Not enough detail - how long, where is it ,how good a friend, will you be sharing a room, will you be able to go out by yourself, is it isolated - need a car. We have lived in Spain and often have visitors - the best ones are semi independent, and that also think and offer payment - water is metered, - long baths, showers 3 times a day come at a cost. Washing things in the machine that have been only worn once (its what I do in England), don't like the milk! - septic tank - don't start me. Visitors are great actually - love showing them around, but prepare to be 'local' and have a back up.

There never is.
It's a "Money Moral Dilemma".
No detail.
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