Do we really need to move?

FreeBear

Doozergirl wrote: »

The kids won't be with you forever but there's still a fair way to go!

The "fair way to go" may be quite a bit longer than some would anticipate. In 2016, the ONS released a report that 25% of young adults (20-34) were still living at home. An increase of some 20% from 2008. https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/families/articles/whyaremoreyoungpeoplelivingwiththeirparents/2016-02-22

It could be, the OP needs to look ahead 25 years or more before reclaiming bedrooms. Worst case scenario, the two children will have partners and children of their own, and still live at home with Mum & Dad.:eek:

RedFraggle

ReadingTim wrote: »

Yeah, 8+ kids in a Victorian 2 up 2 down, sharing a bed as well as a bedroom, tin bath by the fireside and outside netty. Cholera and TB was shared too. I don't think wanting to do away with that is too modern an expectation....

Personally, I think the OP, or rather the OP's other half is being a bit selfish here.

Lol, 2 is not 8. No reason 2 can't share.

mcpitman

OP - why not see how much you would need to outlay additional each month for a new mortgage/loan for loft/extension.

Stick the difference between that and current bills into a savings account for 6/12 months and see how that extra outgoing affects your life/holidays.

Then weigh up if that cost is worth the difference in lifestyle.

ReadingTim

RedFraggle wrote: »

Lol, 2 is not 8. No reason 2 can't share.

No reason other than living in the past that is. Times change, or should we all move back into caves? Lol.

ShandyAndy_2

oystercatcher wrote: »

We have a small 3 bed house and three boys (now grown and gone) , there was an extension on the back which wasn't suitable for a bedroom but we partitioned off part of the original living room for a few years so they each had their own room when studying for exams. Partition now removed.

It worked for us but depends on house layout etc.
I think a bedroom to oneself is quite important in teenage years if possible.

Could you partition off the biggest bedroom to make two small rooms and parents have smaller room for a few years ?

Bedroom not big enough unfortunately

ShandyAndy_2

RedFraggle wrote: »

We mitigated that for building control by having a hardwired smoke alarm. The only fire door was on the attic room itself.
Kids having separate rooms is a modern expectation. Children always shared before.

Have to have both now, regulations changed

ShandyAndy_2

Think it’s a case of having to move in a few years then... just so expensive now, another 100,000 roughly around here!, thanks for replies

ruperts

ReadingTim wrote: »

Yeah, 8+ kids in a Victorian 2 up 2 down, sharing a bed as well as a bedroom, tin bath by the fireside and outside netty. Cholera and TB was shared too. I don't think wanting to do away with that is too modern an expectation....

Personally, I think the OP, or rather the OP's other half is being a bit selfish here.

I shared a room growing up and can confirm that I got neither cholera nor TB.

Mrs_Soup

Personally I would look at moving- your daughters could be with you for another 20 years unless you plan to evict them at 18. Holidays are nice but you spend what 3-4 weeks a year on holiday and the other 48-50 weeks in your home so I would aim to make that as nice as possible for all concerned without compromising too much on everything. Go for one holiday a year perhaps. No rush just yet though if the eldest is only 8. Secondary school the homework ramps up and somewhere to do that without interruption could become critical so either room of her own or space downstairs away from TV and rest of family etc.

mangog

I shared a room with my sister (in bunk beds!) until she moved out at 18, when I was 13. It didn't bother me but as the older sister I know she HATED it from the age of about 12 onwards. We survived, but I think we would have got on a lot better if we'd had our own space! I don't think you need to rush out and buy a bigger house immediately, but you might find life a bit calmer if you can house two teenage girls in separate rooms as they get older.