Aspergers/ASD support thread

angie_baby

Hey all,

Just looking for support really. DS has gone into year 6 and to be honest it is not going as well as year 5. In fact in the space of 3 months we have gone from him going to mainstream secondary to a school with an ASD unit.

He's not happy and some of his behaviour is reminding me of year 3 when he eventually got excluded. I know the change of teachers has upset him alot and that is no fault of the school but things seem to be slipping and they are getting worse rather than better now.

We have gone from a happy boy to one who is so angry I just dont know what to do? I am going to request a meeting with the SENCO ASAP and I do have a parents evening on thurs.

I just want my happy boy back and I'm not sure how to help him?

Thanks guys, Angie x

julie03

my son has this a little, they work them quite hard in year 6 and they are also getting them to be more independent which is a struggle as well.

im sure when you talk to the teacher and senco they can put some strageties into place to help in

angie_baby

julie03 wrote: »

my son has this a little, they work them quite hard in year 6 and they are also getting them to be more independent which is a struggle as well.

im sure when you talk to the teacher and senco they can put some strageties into place to help in

I hope so, we have a new SENCO this year. Last year we were all fine with the go ahead to a mainstream sec, now today I also get a call saying that on what the new SENCO said he is not going to be accepted and to look at schools with a unit attached.

Savvy_Sue

I agree you shouldn't wait until the Parents Evening, btw, getting one ASAP is a good plan, because this isn't a simple 5 minute job with his class teacher.

daska

Parents evenings are usually quite rushed so I wouldn't try to deal with it then. But.... something here doesn"t feel right here. Surely his statement will need to be reviewed for him to access the unit? So if everything is so certain, why has the SENCO not been in touch with you about that?

Savvy_Sue

daska wrote: »

Parents evenings are usually quite rushed so I wouldn't try to deal with it then. But.... something here doesn"t feel right here. Surely his statement will need to be reviewed for him to access the unit? So if everything is so certain, why has the SENCO not been in touch with you about that?

That's a good point, but I'd also say to try not to stress: it could be that the change to year 6 has been unsettling, so that the new SENCO is seeing him in all his upset and basing her opinions on that, but it's also possible the previous SENCO was a bit 'oh, it'll all be alright' and not as pro-active as she might have been. You just don't know yet.

Also it may be that this message is the first stage in reviewing his statement, just not properly communicated IYSWIM.

Sammie_03

Hi all I was just after a bit of advice.
My DS2 age 6 had problems when he first started school (he is in year 2 now) he would often soul himself as he wouldn't use the toilets as they were to small, he also kicked off if lesson plans were changed etc to the point where the rest of the class would have to be escorted out of the class room whilst he was kicking and screaming on the floor (supervised)
We were called to meetings and he was referred to camhs (I think that's what they were called) anyway they decided not to take his case on. When he started year 1 his behaviour got a lot better but he still had problems with "change". He Is very intelligent and is AMAZING at maths, he gets fixated on certain things ie topics at school and will remember everything about it for example he learnt about the titanic. He now knows how many people were on board, how many died, the date, the captains name, the date it finished being built etc.
I'm wondering whether to push the school into helping him again? Is this "normal" behaviour?
The school had an event today which happens every other week and I couldn't make it today, his teacher came up to me after school and said ds2 was very upset I wasn't there (1st time I have missed it) I spoke to ds2 and he said he was waiting by the door for me crying and didn't join in with the other mummies and now I feel really bad
Sorry if this post doesn't make much sense!!
Thanks.

Own_My_Own

Sammie_03 wrote: »

Hi all I was just after a bit of advice.
My DS2 age 6 had problems when he first started school (he is in year 2 now) he would often soul himself as he wouldn't use the toilets as they were to small, he also kicked off if lesson plans were changed etc to the point where the rest of the class would have to be escorted out of the class room whilst he was kicking and screaming on the floor (supervised)
We were called to meetings and he was referred to camhs (I think that's what they were called) anyway they decided not to take his case on. When he started year 1 his behaviour got a lot better but he still had problems with "change". He Is very intelligent and is AMAZING at maths, he gets fixated on certain things ie topics at school and will remember everything about it for example he learnt about the titanic. He now knows how many people were on board, how many died, the date, the captains name, the date it finished being built etc.
I'm wondering whether to push the school into helping him again? Is this "normal" behaviour?
The school had an event today which happens every other week and I couldn't make it today, his teacher came up to me after school and said ds2 was very upset I wasn't there (1st time I have missed it) I spoke to ds2 and he said he was waiting by the door for me crying and didn't join in with the other mummies and now I feel really bad
Sorry if this post doesn't make much sense!!
Thanks.

It make perfect sense .:)

Sorry I can't help with the school bit. My son was not diagnosed until he was 16 and had left school.
Can you talk to your doctor without your son being there.(My ds hates being talked about.)

Our old doctor never listened, but our new one has been great.
I would say just keep pushing until someone listens.
They may listen just to shut you up, but who cares if you get what you need.

Savvy_Sue

Sammie_03 wrote: »

I'm wondering whether to push the school into helping him again? Is this "normal" behaviour?

The range of normality is so wide, so your son's might or might not be called 'normal'. Thing is, it's normal for him, unusual for the class as a whole, and if that's causing him difficulties it's probably causing the class teacher difficulties too.

So yes, I would talk to the school and see how you can work together to help your son.

Sammie_03

Thanks for your replies. We had patents evening next month so I think I will speak to his teacher and make a dr's appointment. I will write a list so I don't forget anything!! I forgot to add on here he does not like large groups, he prefers to play with a couple of people and also he is extremely clumsy (not sure if that's just him though !!) he will fall down stairs, trip over coming in the door etc regularly.
I will read through the thread today as I'm sure that it can help me. Thanks again.
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