Aspergers/ASD support thread

julie03

thanks for the replies, it has put my mind at rest especially after reading deannotrois other post, what an amazing piece of writing.

i do believe it is some form of escapism for him especially after we have had a bad day and there has been lots of shouting and arguing,(still struggling with disipline ) this is when he tells me he got confused between his two worlds. the doctor was lovely today but i think she was concerned especially when he told her there was a doctor in there who was the best doctor in the world, better than her and was telling him stuff.

heretolearn_2

Also lots of kids without health problems have imaginary friends and 'worlds' at that age. I had a whole herd of horses with me sometimes. I distinctly remember sitting on a tube train once with them and trying to sort out enough space for them to stand in. Kids imaginations are incredible. :-)

Raksha

heretolearn wrote: »

Also lots of kids without health problems have imaginary friends and 'worlds' at that age. I had a whole herd of horses with me sometimes. I distinctly remember sitting on a tube train once with them and trying to sort out enough space for them to stand in. Kids imaginations are incredible. :-)

You weren't the only one - only I'm 50 and I still have my favourites (I thought everyone did)

Indie_Kid

sock-knitter wrote: »

hints and jokes go right over my sons head, he would need to be told straight, and then would probably argue about it

My brother is the same. I once asked him if he was born in a barn; as he'd left a door open. Mum then had to explain to him what I meant.

My friend and I have been having (well, I have; but they've impacted on him too) issues. He said that he believes (from the way I've been towards him) that I am possibly autistic too. Now, I am unsure whether I ignore this (although someone else has suggested it too) or whether I do something about it.

How would I go about getting tested as an adult?

Mandles

sh1305 wrote: »

My brother is the same. I once asked him if he was born in a barn; as he'd left a door open. Mum then had to explain to him what I meant.

My friend and I have been having (well, I have; but they've impacted on him too) issues. He said that he believes (from the way I've been towards him) that I am possibly autistic too. Now, I am unsure whether I ignore this (although someone else has suggested it too) or whether I do something about it.

How would I go about getting tested as an adult?

I don't know how to get tested as an adult, sorry. It runs in my OH's family as my son has it and so does his cousin. I can see it alot in my OH and his family (very strongly in one undiagnosed family member). I think a lot of people have it and have been undiagnosed .

I think unless you are experiencing real problems due to it that you don't really need a test but that is just my opinion and i could be wrong!;) If your friend recognises the fact that you may be a bit autistic then he/she has some understanding of it and should accept some of your ways as it is easier for him/her to accept it than you to change a trait of autism.

There are courses about it . I am going on one soon. Maybe ring the autistic society and they may give you some info that may help you .

Wishing you well in whatever you decide to do.

Indie_Kid

Mandles wrote: »

I think unless you are experiencing real problems due to it that you don't really need a test but that is just my opinion and i could be wrong!;)

This is my thinking too. Unlike some people, I am not having any real problems. Plus, I'm not too sure I really want to break the news to my parents (it runs in dads' family) that yet again, one of them has possibly given me something. (earlier this year, I was also diagnosed with a rare genetic disease)

If your friend recognises the fact that you may be a bit autistic then he/she has some understanding of it and should accept some of your ways as it is easier for him/her to accept it than you to change a trait of autism.

He has it himself; so it's not just him reading upon it and thinking "I think my friend might be a little bit autistic because she does (or doesn't do) x, y & z".

Indie_Kid

Is it worth finding another swimming teacher?

Mandles

SH1305 I think you are right. Maybe leave it if you are worried about your parents as it is another thing passed on, even though it is no ones fault.

If you have got by in life ok so far i would be pretty proud of myself as you have done it by yourself . I would def give the autistic society a ring and they may give you your local autistic group and maybe talks that are going on near you. I just missed one with an older girl who said how she coped in life and how she combats obsatcles etc. It apparently was very good.

Good luck.

blue_monkey_2

sh1305 wrote: »

Is it worth finding another swimming teacher?

There aren't any. I am on the waiting list for one that my DD goes to - he has a HUGE waiting list. Everywhere there are waiting lists. This woman was the only one who had a space. Now I know why.....!!

blue_monkey_2

Mandles wrote: »

Sounds like she is paying you back , which is not fair as it is hurting your DS . I would get someone else. I know she is a friend but her last excuse was terrible. She obviously does not understand him to let him down like this. I would just say he needs stability and regular lessons so you are going to have to get someone else.

I would be fuming!

No, it is not this, she just seems to not go in most of the time. One of the times was because her friends rabbit needed to go to the vets. He has only been at group lessons for 1 week and I told her this on the same day I got them. I got them for him because of the sheer number of times she cancelled on me previously (he has had more cancelled than he has been to) and I thought my son needed to know that he was going swimming that week and he would then have routine. These do not get cancelled another teacher will take them if the teacher is ill/wants a day off.

The swimming classes are full to the brim - especially the good ones! The only place I could probably get him in is David Lloyd but I've got to pay £65 a month for membership for us all to be able to get them for him and then £7 a week for the lessons.

I am trying to see if I can get an 2:1 lessons for my DD and DS although they are different levels. The amount of money I am paying for both them to have lessons would justify the cost.