Aspergers/ASD support thread

seven-day-weekend

More good news....my son had his performance review for his job at MATALAN yesterday, he has been there nearly two years.

Basically they were very pleased with him, they said he had a good way with the customers and was accurate on the tills. They said he was always pleasant and smiling and 'willing to get his hands dirty'. Just one or two areas of improvement, they said he had not done enough work in the stockroom dealing with deliveries (both he and they admitted that it was because he was so good at 'front of house' work that they usually asked him to work out front and put someone else out back.).

Anyway, he is to receive training and more work in the stockroom and then he will have more hours because he can do the 7-3 shift.

We are absolutely delighted as you can imagine.

So this just goes to show that a person with mild AS can learn to cope with their condition as they get older, and more mature and are working in an environment which suits them.

My son is bright enough to have done an academic degree and gone into a profession. However, he much prefers working at Matalan and as yesterday proved, is doing very well.

I'm thinking of all of you with your little ASD boys. I haven't forgotten what it was like when he was little.

scrimpingbadger

Thanks for that last post. My little fella is on his way to being diagnosed ASD. Any good news like that gives me hope - though I know we have a rocky road ahead of us. If there is any light at the end of the tunnel, I need to see it!!

seven-day-weekend

Glad it has encouraged you scrimpingbadger, tthat is what i posted for.

My son is 29 and these last two years he has really improved in leaps and bounds, it has just come with maturity as he learns to cope with his condition (for example allowing himself two hours to get ready for work, or planning a journey the day before, because he now has the maturity to realise that he lacks the organisational skills to do these things as quickly as most people.

We thought it would never happen and have breathed a huge sigh of relief.

(Still got an ear-bending about superheroes and Japanese cartoons though, when he and his girlfriend visited us for a week a couple of weeks ago! )

blue_monkey_2

SS, I wanted to say a big thank you because your posts make me realise that there is hope for the future with our kids, and that can get on and do the things they want to do when some days you do wonder. x

Sarahsaver

anyones child had a MRI scan? My DS has one tomorrow and I am trying to bribe him with sushi
In a good mood he will be fine but on a bad day I know it will make him flip out

lottylouj

hi everyone sorry for jumping in, and i dont know if this is the right place to post but im feeling at a loss and totally over whelmed.
my daughter whos 9 has epilepsy and severe learning delays/dissability (no one will give me a straight answer) she has the mental age of a 4 to 5 year old and physical age of a 6 yr old, she has always been delayed all through her life physically mentally and socially. her IQ has come back at 61.
i am also very sure she is on the autistic spectrum, but im getting no where fast, the school are not interested as they dont have the problems i have with her at home although her behaviour can be challanging at times in school.
she is very isolated and her peers dont want to be with her as she is very immature, she is very volitile and physically agressive.
i have been told his morning she is just a naughty child and it has mad me so mad cause im asking for help but i feel like im not being listened to.
i have so many questions but i dont know where to start.

sorry if this post is not in the right place im just not sure where to go from here.

Sarahsaver

which iq was 61? theres more than one. my son has low iq score on organisational ability but genius level verbally.
no wonder he gets frustrated!
excuse the ropey typing - baby on my lap

sounds like your dd is misunderstood by people outside the home maybe she takes it out on u at home cos its safe to do so;) sounds quite a bit like my son!

lottylouj

Sarahsaver wrote: »

which iq was 61? theres more than one. my son has low iq score on organisational ability but genius level verbally.
no wonder he gets frustrated!
excuse the ropey typing - baby on my lap

sounds like your dd is misunderstood by people outside the home maybe she takes it out on u at home cos its safe to do so;) sounds quite a bit like my son!

hi ss, the iq test was done in school, i guess its the organisational ability , she can communicate to a certain level but things need to be kept very simple for her to understand them, and only 1 task at a time.
i think she is misunderstood, but by myself also because i dont know what im dealing with, that probably sounds really bad but i wish i could understand her. she is so isolated.
i have a ds who she is very phsycially aggressive to.
im sure she gets frustrated by people and probably with herself, its hard though because there is no warning she just kinda flips.
ive been told today that she is just a naughty child and i need to find other ways of making her behave. this was by a 'professional' who is supposed to be helping us. it makes me so mad cause they dont see what i see and what family life is like.
has anyone elae had this when you have a really strong instinct that something isnt right with your child but no one will listen to you and hear what you are saying?:mad:

sorry to rant, its just been 1 of those days

Sarahsaver

yep and i stuck to my guns because of those instincts
please PM me cant type much now cos of my kids;) i have 4 of them!

lottylouj

Sarahsaver wrote: »

anyones child had a MRI scan? My DS has one tomorrow and I am trying to bribe him with sushi
In a good mood he will be fine but on a bad day I know it will make him flip out

hi my dd had 1 late last year, i was dreading it because i didnt know how she was going to react, she was given liquid diazapam(sp?) to help relax her from our gp, she was also allowed to take a cd to listen to through head phones. it took about 45 mins( just her head done because of epilepsy) i went in with her and had head phones aswell. she took it really well, the machine was smaller than i thought it would be. it was no where near as bad as i was expecting.
maybe you could ask them to show him the machine before he goes in it? could you ring the department up before and ask there advice about what they think is best? i rung the unit before the MRi and they were great, very reassuring.