Queen Bee fighting for her Hive!

Queen_of_the_Hive

Good Morning Saturday, 

Am up early and feeling surprisingly sprightly. Last night went to the pub and met up with some friends, this was lovely. We are mum friends and formed a book club 2 years ago. Book club has been the perfect excuse to meet up and sample some books I wouldn't normally try, currently we have a couple of books going and a new one to start. I'm on a mission to complete these for next book club meet in the autumn. I'm not normally one to put on make up but it was great to do so and an excuse to wear something a bit more dressy that my normal loungewear. So I decided upon a summer dress I bought at the end of last summer and quite fancy getting myself a demin or leather look jacket. 

This week has been a fairly standard week of work and home life. I have started learning some new skills and tasks in my job. This is all good stuff as it will help me to progress further and open up some more doors. I found it quite confusing though so hopefully it will make sense in time. This is the kind of work I will be doing if my request to take on some extra tasks to cover a colleagues mat leave is approved - I don't know yet if this will happen or not so we will see. I could definitely do with the extra cash. 

Money and finances wise - currently ticking over nicely. In 3 days time its review the monthly accounts and looking at savings of just under £350 and more debt reduction. This is the calm before the storm as I will be dipping heavily into savings for the next couple of months as my partner takes semi retirement, so feeling a little anxious about how these changes will impact on us financially so we are having a relatively quiet summer with no grand plans of a holiday as such but instead focusing on some days out seeing family and making the most of picnics & of course the English Heritage membership. 

Its officially the weekend the kids are with their dad but I have them for a little bit this afternoon and we are finally making it to the Science Museum. We have tickets to a paid part of the museum so that will be a lot of fun. The rumour is dad will collect them from me in town so if that is the case definitely looking forward to exploring central London this evening. Haven't done that since pre covid times. 

Lastly - I was watching one of those awful fly on the wall programs last night and OMG this one was about bad landlords and terrible tenants. Makes me grateful for a having a good tenant in my property, I try to be a good landlord too

Queen_of_the_Hive

I must admit to see relative success it is good to go back and review the none too distance past. The kids school reports came home yesterday and considering the year they have had I couldn't be more prouder. There are signs the kids are 'behind' from where the curriculum says they should be and I can see this without the report but I also know they have flourished since being back to school. So I was a really proud mummy last night and took a lot of pleasure at reading how they have been successful in their own rights. The young one is just starting to read and is showing enthusiasm to write - he can barely write his own name but is keen to give it a go. The older one struggles at English and each year this is a re-occurring theme but I can see he has made strides to overcome this and the school do give him extra support with this too. 

In the last hour or so just been updating some threads on here and reading some historic forum posts. One in particular was from just over a year ago and wow I can see success in my own journey. Just become more financially stable, bought a little house that I may live in retirement and work has settled down and more importantly I have been feeling more settled and secure. I still don't live in a home I own - that is a bigger challenge and money is really tight but its nice to say I'm doing ok 

Drawingaline

I can't shop at Tesco's. Hubby works for a different supermarket so have to shop there 🙄😂 I have a cashback Santander card though. Maybe I need to start putting the cashback aside towards railcards 🤔

 

CRANKY40

@Queen_of_the_Hive I've just seen what you wrote about the eldest not being able to do his shoelaces on another diary. Mine is almost 17 and still can't. He is very hypermobile and the ends of his fingers are so bendy that he just can't do it - writing hurts him too and his handwriting was awful for ages but then school let him use a laptop and the child who used to write for 10 minutes then give up started scoring decent percentages in exams. He also has dyscalculia (the number equivalent of dyslexia) so struggles with maths. I've no idea if you've had your son assessed for anything and no need to share if you have but I just thought I'd pass on some info just in case. Mine was called lazy so many times when he really just wasn't able. 

Drawingaline

Cranky, my 12yr old can't do shoelaces either. Or ride a bike. He is on the spectrum and both his gross and fine motor skills are odd. In that his handwriting is amazing (but slow and he can't bear to get anything wrong as he will just start it again) but he can't use a knife and fork (he doesn't really eat much food that requires it tbh) or tie shoe laces.

CRANKY40

@Drawingaline he sounds very similar to mine - who would live on pizza and cheese and ham toasties if I let him. Neither require a knife. He can't ride a bike because his legs just couldn't make the pedals go round. He had to stop playing football at school too - uneven ground causes major problems as his ligaments don't support his muscles. 

Autism in various degrees runs through our family like the letters in seaside rock. He has a lot of traits but copes well with socialising. I was diagnosed with "hyperactivity" aged 5 and the doctor prescribed valium (it was a long time ago). My mum put them down the toilet and I was left to just get on with it. 

Sorry for hijacking your diary QOTH. 

Queen_of_the_Hive

@Drawingaline and @CRANKY40 - what an interesting discussion. When my son was younger I was wondering if he may be slight on the spectrum as he had some of the watch out signs but they were very subtle. However as he has got older and developed I'm now not sure, if he does he is slight with it. He is quite an anxious kid so that may explain it? He is one of the younger one's in his year and has been getting extra support with his English since he was little with the school. Its not something I asked for he was just identified as needing extra and they support him with spelling, handwriting and writing in general which has helped. I am pretty sure he isn't hypermobile - he doesn't have pain with joints but shoelaces are a challenge. We'll keep going and i'm sure he will crack it at some point. 

Queen_of_the_Hive

This has been a weekend of two halves - just like the football. Met up with friends on Friday night, had Saturday brunch with another friend and had some fun in town on Saturday evening & saw some old work colleagues! However yesterday wasn't feeling too great (not hangover) and again this morning still not 100% but will quietly work through it today as I have a busy week ahead. 

Diet is off the rails and need to re-set myself especially after feeling poop for the past 24hrs. So that's my focus for this week, clean up my act and get back on health track. 

Tomorrow is monthly accounts review - hoping for a good month. 

CRANKY40

@Queen_of_the_Hive hypermobility doesn't always mean pain. I was 38 before my joints started to hurt. My son is just unlucky. I've considered dyspraxia too but most days I think that as long as he is managing, the fewer labels that he officially has the better. 

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@CRANKY40 I was going to say dyspraxia. I taught a very clumsy boy and he was known for it. Other teachers would get frustrated with him. His Mum thought he has autism but he had dyspraxia. Some of the things he used to do you would think they were deliberate but he just couldn't help it. 

QOTH- sounds like a full on weekend. Have a rest this week to reset. x