Inconsiderate neighbour - noise

RelievedSheff

We had a similar situation with our last house. We stuck with it for 12 years.

It is only when we moved this Easter that we realised what an effect it had had on our day to day life.

You will never change your neighbours behaviour, inconsiderate people are just that they will never change. She will be fully aware that her behaviour is a nuisance to you but will firmly believe it is her right to act like she is. Some people are just idiots.

If you can move your planned house move forward at all I would do that. It will be better all round in the long run.

coffeehound

onwards&upwards wrote: »

So just to be clear, the noise nuisance is her having her sex life and coming home late occasionally?

As a result of this you’ve got into tit for that where you deliberately bang on the floor so she then deliberately makes noise to annoy you?

That was the impression I got, too.

Norman_Castle wrote: »

Just to be clear, the noise nuisance is about repeatedly being woken throughout the night.

By noise that could easily have been solved by the OP buying ear plugs.

RelievedSheff

There are clearly a few people on here who have never suffered from bad neighbours.

Davesnave

RelievedSheff wrote: »

There are clearly a few people on here who have never suffered from bad neighbours.

But bad neighbours goes way beyond night time/early morning noises.


Many people live in places where noise is normal, even at night, but with no personal blame attached. When issues become personal, sensitisation occurs.

m0bov

Go down and bang on the door next time it happens, just don't put anything in writing. Can you access her fuse box from the communal hall? Maybe turn the power off if she keeps doing it.

Yellow_mango

I’m not sure it’s reasonable to live in a flat and expect total silence from 8pm - 8am every day.

Maybe I’m desensitised from years of living in cities and also being woken multiple times a night by children. But to be honest nothing you’ve described sounds even close to being a “nuisance”. Slightly irritating maybe, but I’d honestly just roll over, go back to sleep, and have forgotten about it by the morning.

My bin men make more noise than a hoover and often come before 6am. Last week the council decided to cut hedges down our road at around 5.30am.

If it’s bothering you this much, perhaps moving is the best solution. I suggest a detached house in a rural location. I can’t guarantee there won’t be any late night noises from owls or foxes or deer though.

markin

I bet people living to the side of you and above think the same about you!


If you have hard flooring lay thick carpets and rugs down.

xylophone

No, you shouldn't put up with it. Neither should you deal with it in the manger that you have.

Complete with dog?:)

Norman_Castle

Yellow_mango wrote: »

I’m not sure it’s reasonable to live in a flat and expect total silence from 8pm - 8am every day.

The op isn't asking for that. The only person on here that has heard the noise is the op. Why presume she is incapable of judging what’s reasonable?

AliceBanned

RelievedSheff wrote: »

There are clearly a few people on here who have never suffered from bad neighbours.

I agree. There are always plenty of trolls on here who think they know it all and like to say unpleasant things because exactly that, they think the OP is to blame because they have never been there and lived through it. I am not perfect but I don't have the patience of a saint, what am I supposed to do smile and knock on their door when I am alone, in the middle of the night? It might not even be safe to do so. and yes I can absolutely tell when they are off their heads, for reasons I don't need to justify to people who will never hear and see it.


For what it's worth:


I use earplugs regularly but the noise is over and above this and besides, I'm not going to use them every night, that wouldn't be fair when the place is otherwise very peaceful and all other neighbours are reasonable
I don't expect total silence as someone has suggested, I just don't like being woken up frequently in the middle of the night by people partying and not caring about having basic standards of behaviour
The lease does stipulate a lot of things that she is frequently breaching including no housework or loud music after 11pm and before 7am. I accept noise outside this within reason but really? 2am? 5.30am? It's hardly essential to do the hoovering.
I am not stupid, I know when noise is beyond a normal sober level, it is clear when people have no sense of noise and how loud they are because they are off their heads. I've had to put up with it so I should know the patterns of behaviour. Clearly I can't prove they are on particular drugs or drank particular things, this wasn't meant literally I am just describing the situation as I hear it.
The reason noise nuisance laws are in place is to protect people's health, mental and physical from the affect of repeatedly having their essential sleep broken.