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Money Moral Dilemma: Should I let my girlfriend's friend have our 'free' flight?

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My girlfriend and I earned a British Airways companion voucher through our everyday spending on her credit card. Ideally we'd go on a trip together, but she suggested she takes a friend instead. They would both still pay taxes, but one ticket would be paid for in Avios points, the other would be 'free'. Is this fair on me?

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  • eDickyeDicky Forumite
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    MSE_Sarah wrote: »
    Is this fair on me?
    In a relationship, the reason for the need to ask such a thing is probably a more meaningful thing to look for...
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  • CardinalWolseyCardinalWolsey Forumite
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    Does the friend know that one of the flights is funded via points and the other is a companion voucher?

    Where in the world are they flying? Big difference in points and APD based upon short haul and long haul.

    What class are they flying? Y, W, J, F?

    Who's funding the Avios portion - your GF's friend will need to be a linked Friend and Family account to your BAEC account.
  • gettingtheresometimegettingtheresometime Forumite
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    Depends on whether the voucher is due to expire shortly.

    Personally I'd be miffed if my hubby wanted to take a friend using the companion voucher and the avios points.......though I think it would be the avios points that was the deal breaker for me
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  • mgdavidmgdavid Forumite
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    maybe she's just not that into you... see post #2
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  • I'd be livid, I think you need to find a new girlfriend!
  • The viewpoints are all in agreement - if she doesn't want to spend time with you on holiday, something is wrong.

    Would you turn her down and take your mate instead? There is obviously something seriously wrong with her viewpoint of you.
  • as above ...its a no brainer
  • edited 13 August 2019 at 8:54PM
    gerryseatongerryseaton Forumite
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    edited 13 August 2019 at 8:54PM
    It really depends on how much you love your girlfriend! If that flight for her friend is more important than she is, then moan, but if she is more important that a free flight, let her and her friend go. Sometimes there are more important things in life. Plus, she will think you are wonderful letting her friend have the flight. Good luck.
    Since writing this I read the comments above. They seem more interested in the flight. My reason is, whats more important. Its only a flight. As I said before, good luck.
  • elsienelsien Forumite
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    The viewpoints are all in agreement - if she doesn't want to spend time with you on holiday, something is wrong.

    Would you turn her down and take your mate instead? There is obviously something seriously wrong with her viewpoint of you.

    Not neccessarily the case at all. One of my friends love holidays chilling a beach in a very hot part of the world, which is her husband's idea of hell. Holidays generally are his idea of hell. They have family holidays together but she also holidays with me while her husband looks after the kids. They are both happy with the arrangements so it's not an issue.
    It's only a problem if one person wants to go together and the other says no.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

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    I think the very fact you need to ask the question on here says all you need to know, OP. Why are you not having this discussion with your girlfriend?

    This is not a moral dilemma; it is a personal one.
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