Friend making terrible mistake

MEM62

Caraway90 wrote: »

I understand what you're saying. With regards to the child she didn't tell anyone they were trying for a baby, which I appareciate is a personal thing and do not expect people to annouce they are trying for a baby. However, this meant when we found out we couldn't tell her not to have baby. The marriage we only found about last week. I do appreciate it may be too late, but things have got graudually worse over time.

I'm not saying don't have the chat. Have it - she should know how you feel and that you will be there for her if (when?) it all goes wrong. Do not be too surprised if nothing changes however. She will feel committed to her path as there are things here that cannot be undone.

unholyangel

MEM62 wrote: »

I'm not saying don't have the chat. Have it - she should know how you feel and that you will be there for her if (when?) it all goes wrong. Do not be too surprised if nothing changes however. She will feel committed to her path as there are things here that cannot be undone.

One of my friends realised before the big day she'd made a mistake but said she felt she had to go through with it because it was booked/ordered and her family had all been invited. I still had that talk with her though. That I thought she was making a mistake but I was her friend because of who she is, so would always be there for her - regardless of who she was with. Their marriage was very short, thankfully.

It frankly amazes me at how people can seem perfectly sane and normal in every other walk of life, but in a relationship they are psychotic.

Pollycat

unholyangel wrote: »

One of my friends realised before the big day she'd made a mistake but said she felt she had to go through with it because it was booked/ordered and her family had all been invited. I still had that talk with her though. That I thought she was making a mistake but I was her friend because of who she is, so would always be there for her - regardless of who she was with. Their marriage was very short, thankfully.

It frankly amazes me at how people can seem perfectly sane and normal in every other walk of life, but in a relationship they are psychotic.

I think this when I read about someone who's managed to con some woman out of money.
There was something on This Morning yesterday about a conman - Mark Aklam - who had duped lots of women, claiming to be a millionaire Swiss banker and worked for MI6 (plot straight out of Appletree Yard).
He conned one woman out of £850k and I heard her say he was very rude to her children when he met them but she excused his behaviour.

If this friend of the OP doesn't want to listen to 'the chat', she won't.