Neighbour Anxiety

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benmeg wrote: »

we moved in 1 month ago - my neighbour is an elderly lady with mental health problems and she shouts all hours of the days, puts food by peoples cars, bangs on our wall, shouts insults. i am constantly on edge but we are in a 12 month fixed contract

benmeg wrote: »

we're in a 12 month fixed contract and are only 1 month into it - just dont want to watch my relationship breakdown because of a silly human being that is out to make peoples lives a misery

How compassionate of you.
Have you thought about talking to her? Or her family/carers?

benmeg

i suffer from mental healthy myself - this lady is completely aware of what shes doing - whenever me or my partner are outside the house she chucks water down from her window at us. i will not excuse someones behaviour like that. Weve attempted to speak to her - all she does is shout nasty retorts or chuck water.

RelievedSheff

Record her behaviour and report it to the council and the police. Maybe that way she will get some help that she clearly needs.

As difficult as it may seem you really need to try and not let her behaviour get to you.

Just keep telling yourself it is only 11 months until you move on.

xylophone

me or my partner are outside the house she chucks water down from her window at us.

Let's hope that it won't be anything other than H20:eek:

Her behaviour is unacceptable ( and potentially dangerous if the vessel containing the water comes flying out of the window as well).

It would be as well to report what is happening to the council/her landlord (if she is not the owner)/the police.

elsien

RelievedSheff wrote: »

Is this not likely to aggrevate the problem neighbours more which will just worsen the problem?

Fannying around trying to placate them won't help either. Someone who regularly reported noise nuisance continued to do so for several weeks after the property was vacated and empty.
Try to live your life as normally as you can in the circumstances. You won't placate your neighbour whatever you do, but you can control the impact on your relationship if you stop expecting both of you to be like church mice.

-taff

RelievedSheff wrote: »

Is this not likely to aggrevate the problem neighbours more which will just worsen the problem?

Doesn't matter what they do,the neighbour is going to be a pain. At least they'll get used to loud noses and not associate them with anger and a desire to placate.

G_M

Ultimately an ASBO.
And/or medical help.


But this will only happen if the various relevant authorities are informed and are gven evidence on which to act.

Davesnave

benmeg wrote: »

i suffer from mental healthy myself - this lady is completely aware of what shes doing - whenever me or my partner are outside the house she chucks water down from her window at us. i will not excuse someones behaviour like that. Weve attempted to speak to her - all she does is shout nasty retorts or chuck water.

It's quite obvious that this person is ill and needs help, but not the sort you are giving her by behaving in an unnaturally quiet way in your own home.

If she is predictable, film her doing the above and go to the police. They will probably put a PSCO on the matter and take it from there. Firstly, it needs someone to gather evidence and complain to set the wheels in motion to get her some help.

No one is asking you to excuse her behaviour. I'm sure it's intimidating and annoying, but it's a problem that's landed randomly at your door and you either deal with it in an adult way or let it overwhelm you. Are there any other neighbours who could give you some support?

markin

You are still smoking outside her window then.....

lookstraightahead

I could be wrong here but just a thought - is the landlord obliged to inform prospective tenants of any previous dispute/issues or is that just house buying?