Neighbour Anxiety

benmeg

Hi all,

I previously did a post regarding our nightmare neighbour who was causing me and my partner grief. As her behaviour is carrying on I've started to realise that this 1. affecting my relationship as I am constantly on edge in terms of how much noise my partner makes as i dont want to unsettle next door and 2. every time i hear a bang whether im at home or at someone elses house or even just the street i jump or i panic . This is happening all the time no matter where i am and who im with which i think is repercussions of how next door is with her constantly banging on the wall when she decides to be a pain - i just want to know what i should do with the anxiety and the fact that im always on edge and will jump out of my skin every time i hear a bang??

Any ideas??

Thanks

Comms69

Speak to your GP?

RelievedSheff

Can you move house and move away from the problem?

Rosieandjim

I have been in your position enduring nearly 8 years of hell from above neighbours. I wont go into detail but the police who were involved told me that it would affect my relationship with my husband if I stayed in that house and we would part because of it. I was taken aback by this but.


How true that was. I was stressed by what was happening but equally stressed at trying to keep my other half calm as his anger was only aggravating the situation. We moved eventually with help from the police. The problem with this is that you are constantly waiting for the problems to start. Get out if you can and do see your GP also.

-taff

Put on some loud happy music and dance to it while shouting at the top of your voice. Accustom yourself to loud noise instead of hiding from it.

RelievedSheff

-taff wrote: »

Put on some loud happy music and dance to it while shouting at the top of your voice. Accustom yourself to loud noise instead of hiding from it.

Is this not likely to aggrevate the problem neighbours more which will just worsen the problem?

Smodlet

Keep a noise/disturbance diary, record the neighbour's noise if you can and contact the council (and the police, for all the use they are) Keep on and on contacting them until they take some damned notice. It is arduous, stressful and should not be necessary but the only way to deal with ignorant chavs (short of taking the law into your own hands) is to document everything for what feels like forever.

If this neighbour rents, find his/her LL's details and complain to them (Land registry/the council can help with this) If they own, it is more difficult but the council could conceivably still have them evicted (or so ours told us) More likely, they could take steps to curb this behaviour.

Believe me, if you don't stand up for yourself in this situation, nobody else will; I know.

benmeg

we moved in 1 month ago - my neighbour is an elderly lady with mental health problems and she shouts all hours of the days, puts food by peoples cars, bangs on our wall, shouts insults. i am constantly on edge but we are in a 12 month fixed contract

benmeg

we're in a 12 month fixed contract and are only 1 month into it - just dont want to watch my relationship breakdown because of a silly human being that is out to make peoples lives a misery

hazyjo

Do you have a break clause in the contract?

benmeg

not from what i can see in any of our documents given to us