Having BIG regrets about selling...can't shake the feelings.

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forgotmyname wrote: »

Silly, I would have offered £8000.


When viewing the car I would have knocked you down to around £4300 though

Thanks, that made me chuckle.

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Aylesbury_Duck wrote: »

Something else good or bad will be along soon to take your mind off it. In the grand scheme of the hundreds of thousands of pounds you will earn and spend in your lifetime it's utterly trivial. I bet you're "up" more than the few hundred quid you think you're "down" from something else in the past.

That's true and a good way to think of it. Thank you. Hoping the something else that comes along will be good, thinking positive thoughts :-)

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bigisi wrote: »

Not sure this belongs on here as it seems less about the car and more about your mental health issues.

Have you sought advice from your GP about your problems?

Can't imagine the look on my GP's face if I turn up and say I need medical help because I'm having regrets for selling...I figured it's just normal thoughts of regret sometimes and part of learning (yep I make plenty of wrong decisions but I do also make some good ones too).


All in all the thought of my GP's face did make me chuckle too and thank you for responding.


Sorry if you feel I put it in the wrong section, I didn't know what other section to put it in since it was about motoring and all. Maybe there is another section but I don't know which one. I did title my post appropriately I felt.

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Sea_Shell wrote: »

Think of it this way, your buyer may soon suffer a completely unforeseeable major breakdown, costing many £££ to repair, and you'll have then dodged a bullet!!!

Every cloud!!

I really hope not for the buyer's sake but i get your point, something unforeseen may happen...


I think i was just emotionally attached to it as i have nice memories of places i went in it and maybe giving it a name was a step too far with regards detachment...not naming my new one.


Does any one else name theirs? If not, maybe i should get in the queue for my GP after all as someone suggested earlier lol

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facade wrote: »

Seems perfectly normal sellers remorse to me. I did the exact same thing once, checked Autotrader, priced my car the same as the others, sold it the day Autotrader came out, then got no end of phone calls offering me more money if I could pull out of the sale.

Explains why I'm not a millionaire really.


Eventually I found something worse to regret, but at the time it really stung.

True, it is normal sellers remorse. It does sting at the time though and it's weird how as humans we just want to try to undo our own mistakes (well i do anyway) so was just trying to get the delete button out or wanting to blame someone else but i know it was my decision, just sucking it up and moving on.


Sorry to hear you found something worse to regret. Lots of things to be thankful for :-)

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Jackmydad wrote: »

Win some. Lose some.
A tale of buying and selling cars.

The OP is making it a personal issue.
It's not. It's a car been sold. A tin box.
Walk away and don't look back.
Unless you're a trader, you don't buy a car to make a profit.

Yes that's true, i was too attached personally. That's good advice, tin box and all that, i'll try and think that way from now on.


Def not a trader, couldn't handle the stress involved or the emotions lol

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motorguy wrote: »

Lots of people make asking price "offers" either to be scams or to quickly back off when you say "ok". Also a lot of people make offers then chip you back heavily when they get there when they find "issues" with the car.

I very much doubt you'd have ended up with much extra money in your pocket, if any. AND you had the relief of getting the car away at the time you needed it to go.

You sold it based on the best information you had at the time, therefore it was the right decision.

Treat it as a learning exercise that you've learned from and move on.

Thanks for the advice, that is true what you say. Good learning exercise :-)

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alan_d wrote: »

I regretting selling a car last year, only really because i'd had it for so long, was reliable, comfortable and I wasn't sure about it's replacement. The buyer had a thread on Piston Heads about it, which I commented on, and mentioned that if he ever sells it....
6 months later I got a text from him, change of job, and offered me the car (now with ~17k more miles on it) for pretty much half what I sold it for with 4 new winter tyres on it! A train trip and ~100 mile journey later and I had it back, as well as the replacement!
I ran both in parallel for a while then when a good mate was looking for a cheap car sold it to him, for what it cost me 2nd time around.
Strangely no regret after the 2nd sale, maybe because I know it's gone to a good home, and having ironed out most of the issues with the replacement, i'm enjoying it more.
There was little logical reason to buy it back, as it cost me in insurance and tax etc, but just felt I needed to!
Sometimes it's just about getting things straight in your head. It's not worth worrying over a few hundred £ here and there for what could have been.

Aw that was good you managed to buy it back and feel better the second time round selling it. That's something i would consider doing but don't think buyer would sell it as he sounded like he wanted it long term so i guess that's one good thing that it will be looked after (i hope). There loads of other things i can focus on so looking forward now, not back :-)


Good advice, thank you for writing.

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Thank you all to the lovely people who wrote about my issue i was having, you were all so kind, thank you.


I'm feeling much better about things and looking forward now, not back. I think i was too personally attached to it, so not going to make that same mistake with my new one, i don't like it as much anyway so that defo helps for starters lol.


Anyway thanks again all, lesson learnt for me :-)

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Glad you are feeling better, time really is a great healer.
Don't name the new one. Call it "The Car" or if you have access to 2, "The Focus/Fiesta/Polo" etc)


Names are for things with a soul. (animals & people), once you give an inanimate object a name, you create a sort of soul for it, in your head, (or if you read Terry Pratchett, in the object).


My jury is out on ships