NIghtmare Neighbour

m0bov

ska_lover wrote: »

If it were me, I would make one last ditch attempt with this woman. Something like

I know its best intentions, but given how unstable the person is, I would stay well clear and let the police deal with it.

benmeg

HI,

Thank you so much for sharing your experience! Thats what we would have liked to do - get on the right side of her - by she shouts that she doesnt want anyone on her property and will ring the police and our landlord which we're not bothered about - we dont have anything to hide but we are just worried about what would happen if we did try to make it all right because she is so unpredictable!

Ill speak to my partner and see his opinion x

ska_lover

m0bov wrote: »

I know its best intentions, but given how unstable the person is, I would stay well clear and let the police deal with it.

I hear you - each case is very different. And that being said my advice could make things worse

Sorry I was just telling my tale of woe. In many ways I was lucky it was sorted

I hope you get this sorted OP - I can imagine how you are feeling

princeofpounds

I'm sympathetic, but this could be a whole lot worse. She's deeply annoying, but at least all the neighbours know that she is the one causing trouble, and she's not violent (unless you count water).


But best of all - you are renting! This is really important. Obviously because as soon as your lease is up you can leave (or sooner, if you are willing to bear a cost).


But also because you don't have to worry about declaring disputes, which you would have to do if you owned the place and sold. So you can freely involve the authorities as much as you like.


Now don't think this will solve things quickly. But some pressure may put a lid on her antics.


Start a harassment diary - record audio and video when you can (I appreciate you may not want to do this too obviously to avoid inflaming her). Report her to the police by 101, and separately speak to your neighbourhood officer. Don't expect them to attend for every minor slight, but if she does something more serious (things like the water chucking, or any criminal damage) then ask them to attend and warn her.


Also report her to the council's anti-social behavior team. They will have one, and there will be a process that will also result in visits.


Also report her stored waste to the council, possibly noise nuisance and anything else.


If your friendly neighbours do all this too, then all the better.


If you have the time and patience, this will all culminate in an ASBO most likely. But I suspect you'll be on your way by then.


Your landlord is limited in what they can do as she owns her own property, so there isn't much point hassling them about it - just when you do give your notice, tell them why.


If the neighbours from hell forums UK are still active, you might get some more ideas there.


Try not to let this dominate your thinking all the time - she is just the local nutcase (I appreciate that may not be a PC term), lots of roads have them.

ska_lover

benmeg wrote: »

HI,

Thank you so much for sharing your experience! Thats what we would have liked to do - get on the right side of her - by she shouts that she doesnt want anyone on her property and will ring the police and our landlord which we're not bothered about - we dont have anything to hide but we are just worried about what would happen if we did try to make it all right because she is so unpredictable!

Ill speak to my partner and see his opinion x

Oh gosh, it really is a pickle

Does she have any family - that you know of? I know you have only been there a few weeks

It is hard to know how to handle things when you see or sense that the person coming against you, is possibly vulnerable in some way

ska_lover

princeofpounds wrote: »

Try not to let this dominate your thinking all the time - she is just the local nutcase (I appreciate that may not be a PC term), lots of roads have them.

That is really quite insightful, that is what happened to me

It was all I could think of. Tears at work /dreading going home etc

sheramber

Record her outbursts and keep a diary of them also.

Have that evidence for the police. Supporting statements for your neighbours would help.

You may need to persevere with the police - don't let them brush you off.

There may not be much they can do apart from speak to her, which may or may not have an effect.
But they may be able to refer her case to some other authority .

If rubbish piling up is a problem contact your council environmental health department.

benmeg

will do! Thank you x

benmeg

no weve been told she has some kind of mental illness - couldn't reveal much more . as someone who suffers mental illness themselves i completely sympathise with her but then again shes targeting us and thats now taking a toll on my mental health./ god knows what we will do

benmeg

yes we are well truly at a loss - she has a son but we've never seen him. we're caught between a rock and a hard place.