I want out .....

wilkster5

I think once you've had some space you will be in a much clearer position as to how you feel, one way or another. He cant shout n scream, and it cant be good infront of a 2 year old. Does he not realise this. Talk to breathing space, they deal with this daily and will be able to give you some advice.

cat4772

DB - i came up on this thread a few minutes ago. Counselling might be available through your GP as well. Pleasem please shout at us (whilst you throw the tablets away)!

(((hugs))) Cat.x

supersavershal

Hi dumb blonde, I hope you are ok.I have had bad periods with my OH (hes the one that is bad with money).At times I felt I couldnt carry on, I also felt bad for my children listening to arguments and feeling the bad atmosphere.We had almost decided to call it a day but after one big almighty row we decided to give it another go.Touch wood, we have been ok for a few months and Im glad we stayed together.
Having debt and no money causes so many arguments but it isnt worth dying for, its only money at the end of the day.do you still love him, try spending some time apart and thinking clearly if you have a future together.Sometimes its hard but you need a big argument to get the underlying resentments out in the open.(iv never trusted couples who say they never argue).
Anyway sorry for the essay stay here and talk we are all here for you.

Dumb_Blonde_3

thanks guys

yellowmonkey

Good luck

ym

bringmeshoes

Hi there
i know i'm only saying what everyone else is but please don't do anything drastic. We are all here if you need to let off steam,rant, cry or whatever you need.
big hugs

poppy10_2

(((Big Hugs)))

Dumb_Blonde_3

Hi guys - thanks for yesterday - I was having a really awful day (maybe it was a bit of PMT thrown in as well). Yes christmas is a difficult time of year - where to spend xmas day etc - we usually end up travelling but this year I didn't fancy it so we will see his parents the day before. I know its me because I've had a pretty up and down year - we actually started the year debt free after owing 20k back in 2003 - we cleared this just before our son was born (in 2005) and were debt free for several years but then I lost my grandad on new years day this year - it was so unexpected and so the spending spree began - I then had a miscarridge in September - just so many things - the good days do outweigh the bad days and I know everyone has them so thanks guys for being here for me. I feel like a bl00dy idiot now that I've calmed down. I think me and my husband need to start spending a bit of time together as a couple - he's constantly working as we so want to be clear of debt before the year is out - we're almost there - well 6 weeks today is New Years Day - I'd better think of some NY resolutions.

southwester_2

DB

hang on in there, been through an awful year myself but through working together , it is all working out. It will get better I promise you, I thought i wouldnt and even thought hat you were thinking but now happier than I was before this year, so stay calm girl and hang on in there

X

In_Search_Of_Me

Reading that I do wonder DB whether you should consider having some bereavement counselling - Cruise can be very helpful and deal secifically with this & I think is done on a vuluntary basis. You have experienced a number of losses of late and its really important that you deal with these emotionally or it can all sit inside you, festering away and causing additional stress.
Hugs for you but really pleased/delighted you are feeling better & to hear from you again. I always really worry when I see those desperate posts...esp when you dont hear from people for a while.