Relocate or not

Mummy2cheekymonkeys

iksbedd wrote: »

These are wise words. My husband is struggling to see the pros of the move, but does say if roles were reversed, he'd move in a flash. I also do know that any bad days/experiences up there will be my fault - this is partly why I am doubting it.

Me and my sister don't always get along grandly, but I want to be part of my nephew's life, and want the kids to grow up close to their cousin, rather than miles away and being strangers.

I agree about showing the children the importance of family. I keep coming back to the day my mum dies and I'll know and regret for the rest of my life not spending those last few years closer to her, basically because of fear and money.

I don't get on brilliantly with my sister most of the time. She lives 5 minutes away and I haven't seen her since Christmas. My mum has 4 brothers who all live in about a 10 mile radius and she will be lucky if she sees them once a year. Being nearer doesn't mean you will necessarily see them any more. Life gets in the way when you are all raising families of your own.

iksbedd

No.

It felt too rushed. And I'm not sure DH actually wants to go. I fear I'm stuck here forever.

Bluebell1000

We relocated from SW to Midlands 8 years ago because I'd been offered a job. My husband had to leave his job to do that, but he was fully behind the move because he wasn't enjoying his job. He's now working part time and is much happier with what he's doing, after a complete change of career. As houses are much cheaper, despite the drop in income, things are easier financially.

However things would have been much harder if DH hadn't wanted to move, so I can understand your decision. However it's not fair that you should be miserable just to keep him happy. Can you find any kind of compromise, maybe moving a bit closer?