Job advice

Sncjw

It’s your interview. Your answering the questions .

samtheman112

Sncjw wrote: »

So you can work at the weekends then during the day and evening

during the day and evening yes, but not overnight as i can't be overtired for college

samtheman112

Sncjw wrote: »

It’s your interview. Your answering the questions .

Which i just answered

Sncjw

There you go.

I’ve had a look at the job st the hotel and it doesn’t say over night. Just apply for jobs

JCS1

samtheman112 wrote: »

(1)-I was bullied at school and taken out
(2)-I suffered from very low confidence, my dad had an affair
(3)-My dad has treated me like !!!! and like i can't cope with anything
(4)-My grandad had cancer scares, had a stroke, had Parkinsons. My mum got with someone and i didn't know how to express my feelings
(5) I have had friends who i thought were friends who ended up pinching me, biting me, throwing my glasses away

I started college, have only really found confidence in trying to do things so yeah it hasn't been easy and that's why

Too much information that is not necessary for an employer to know. You need to condense it into maybe something like "family and personal issues which you have now worked through, and you are looking forward to starting work".

I was also bullied, lost my father when I was 19 (and then both maternal grandparents within 18 months of my Dad), and depression for over 20+ years - so I do know a little of what you are going through.

Sncjw

They won’t want to hear about the ins and out of your personal life

samtheman112

JCS1 wrote: »

Too much information that is not necessary for an employer to know. You need to condense it into maybe something like "family and personal issues which you have now worked through, and you are looking forward to starting work".

I was also bullied, lost my father when I was 19 (and then both maternal grandparents within 18 months of my Dad), and depression for over 20+ years - so I do know a little of what you are going through.

thank you. you know then that you would not want anybody going through your situation, im going off track here but i have to say my god if i ever had kids I would give them the best childhood anybody could wish for, i would support them in anything they want to do and protect them in anything they wanted to do and any job they wanted.

elsien

samtheman112 wrote: »

(1)-I was bullied at school and taken out
(2)-I suffered from very low confidence, my dad had an affair
(3)-My dad has treated me like !!!! and like i can't cope with anything
(4)-My grandad had cancer scares, had a stroke, had Parkinsons. My mum got with someone and i didn't know how to express my feelings
(5) I have had friends who i thought were friends who ended up pinching me, biting me, throwing my glasses away

I started college, have only really found confidence in trying to do things so yeah it hasn't been easy and that's why

Whatever the impact, none of those are reasons not to have a job. And the employer isn't going to want to hear them - or rather they will be read as not wanting to touch you with a barge pole. That's not harsh, that's the reality.

Do you want an employer to know about your ASD? That will affect how you explain the last few years.

samtheman112

elsien wrote: »

Whatever the impact, none of those are reasons not to have a job. And the employer isn't going to want to hear them - or rather they will be read as not wanting to touch you with a barge pole. That's not harsh, that's the reality.

Do you want an employer to know about your ASD? That will affect how you explain the last few years.

what do you mean, so what do you suggest

JCS1

samtheman112 wrote: »

thank you. you know then that you would not want anybody going through your situation, im going off track here but i have to say my god if i ever had kids I would give them the best childhood anybody could wish for, i would support them in anything they want to do and protect them in anything they wanted to do and any job they wanted.

You can't change the past, but you can control your future.

Took me a many years of therapy to realise that.