Next door neighbour still being noisy despite telling her...

Sophie_10

suki1964 wrote: »

Your only option really is to have your side of the wall soundproofed. Even fitted wardrobes on that wall will help muffle the sound

The other thing,, if you don't mind me saying, I don't mean any rudeness, is that you have possibly become really fixated with it and thats why its sounding so worse then it possibly would be for someone else. If you could relax about it, concentrate on something else, the sound might not penetrate to you so much and you may find you sleep through it because it becomes normal

I don't think Ive expressed that too well but I hope you understand what I mean. Same as people having a train going past every few minutes, it becomes the norm, they stop hearing them

Thank you, for being one of the few others to just offer advice rather than blowing it into a massive debate or argument! I do despair with some people, they must be implementing some form of projection. I know that with my anxiety my body must be in a fight or flight mode a lot so I am waking up at noises.

I do know what you mean and perhaps that is the case, I have no idea. We are looking into soundproofing and will get this sorted as soon as we can as I'm not into the drama.

Sophie_10

iammumtoone wrote: »

7am is not considered early. I believe the official night time is 11-7 anything outside of this is daytime and any noise is accepted. Because you have a medical condition that you need extra sleep I don't mean to sound harsh but this is your issue and not the neighbours.

Personally I am with you I don't want to be woken up at 7 on a weekend but my neigbours always do their hovering at around that time on a Saturday on a weekday sometimes I hear their alarm at 5am. It is just what you have to put up with if you can only afford a terrace house, you do get used to it.

I suggest you move your bed into a different room, you could still leave the wardrobes in the main bedroom.

I understand where you're coming from.. Like I said, I also do see where she is coming from, which is why this is so difficult. I guess I'm disappointed, because I bought this house thinking it would have had thick walls becaue it was built in the 1900s and the seller assured me (she probably didn't hear it.)

Poor you on the same boat as me it seems!

I'll just have to wait until I can get my riches and move out into a detached

jennifernil

Sophie_10 wrote: »

Hi,

So, we moved in and basically kept getting woken up at 6am on Tuesday and then on a Saturday at 7am with a loud phone conversation where our neighbour is laughing and talking very loudly. We work full time so do appreciate a slight (!) lie in on the weekends and I also suffer with mental health issues meaning I do need a certain amount of sleep on weekends.

When we approached her about this, she was very nice and said she is sorry but it is her work so there isn't a lot she can do (she tutors French people to learn English.) She said she has tried to turn it down after we dropped the note in, but she has to express her words because she is teaching English. We do understand where she is coming from, which is the difficult thing. She is a old lady that lives on her own, maybe this is her only social outlet. I asked if she could perhaps move to another room, but she has had her work set up like that for years and nobody has ever said anything. She had a class so we arranged for her to come around to ours on Friday to discuss further and come to a resolution a couple days before. She never came round, so we were left confused like does she not want to address this anymore?



Thank you!

Am I understanding this correctly..........

She is teaching English over the phone at 6 and 7am some mornings?

And running English classes in her home?

Sophie_10

jennifernil wrote: »

Am I understanding this correctly..........

She is teaching English over the phone at 6 and 7am some mornings?

And running English classes in her home?

She is teaching English to French people over the phone at 6am and 7am some mornings, yes. She doesn't have any people in her house, just over the phone it is.

ChrisK....._3

But if course don't forget to warn the buyers about your noisy neighbours otherwise they could come back to you for their money back for failing to disclose

diggingdude wrote: »

I would suggest listing your house for sale, but the next neighbours may also be noisy. Having lived in student accommodation near train lines/main roads for most of my 20s I do find it amazing what some people consider to be noise

Sophie_10

But if course don't forget to warn the buyers about your noisy neighbours otherwise they could come back to you for their money back for failing to disclose

Yeah I will do, thanks for your help Chris

Norman_Castle

Sophie_10 wrote: »

She is teaching English to French people over the phone at 6am and 7am some mornings, yes. She doesn't have any people in her house, just over the phone it is.

If she is teaching using a phone some people shout into the phone if they are finding it difficult to hear the other person or obviously if the receiver cannot hear them. Many people also tend or need to shout if using a speaker phone. As her business involves speaking and hearing speech clearly a headset with microphone would be much better. Offer to buy her one which works with her phone.

As the noise that is disturbing you is from a home business environmental health may be able to help. Try finding out or contacting them informally.

HollySocks_2

Just for some context..
I lived on what was officially the worst estate in the UK. I had years and years of abuse from direct neighbours, next door, underneath me..death threats, neighbour standing outside my bedroom window threatening to gouge my eyes out, stereo system out outside my window all night long for months and months at full blast. Police , council, housing association. did nothing, just made the neighbours more aggressive and threatening every time the police had gone. My neighbours stabbed me, smashed their way into my flat , robbed me, they had 6 staffies in a 1 bed flat, all let out directly outside my window all day and night. I couldn’t begin to count the death threats, screaming, abuse....the stress and depression and abuse, I attempted unsuccessfully to hang myself, but did cause severe injuries in the fall. I then stopped going outside and had panic attacks just at the thought of going outside, I lost my job, my career, and felt utterly alone and helpless.

For those that say I don’t understand noisy neighbours, I have dealt with more in a month than most do in a lifetime. After being stabbed and robbed, the court decided not to jail them, despite them having a string of convictions, firearms offences. The court said they could not grant a restraining order as they lived next door. The court said I needed to look into an emergency house move with my housing assoc.
I was sarcastic in my post, but that’s because the idea of just having to deal with voices on the telephone or an alarm clock, well, to many that would be their idea of heaven! I now get help with the local mental health services to get outside, go to groups etc.

I understand more than anyone how bad neighbours can affect your entire life. And having now moved, the fact that the neighbour upstairs will wake me up at 4am by his alarm clock and his dog barking, doesn’t bother me in the slightest, as that’s all I now have to put up with..I lie there and think back to how bad things were, how bad things currently are for some people, and I fall back to sleep

greenbee

Sophie_10 wrote: »

I'll just have to wait until I can get my riches and move out into a detached

Don't assume that'll be a solution. There is still noise - road noise, lawnmowers, doors slamming, people in the garden, building works, people walking home from the pub/bus stop late at night, cars/motorbikes when people go to work early in the morning.

I tend not to have any background noise (TV/radio) on most of the time as I work from home and then forget to turn it on when I stop working. I find I can hear a lot of what's going on and the houses around me are quite a long way away, but some sounds carry. I probably disturb people too, as I often leave home at the crack of dawn (or earlier) and arrive home late at night.

In my previous house the attached neighbour had a dog that barked constantly when she was out and the tumble dryer on constantly upstairs as well as the TV against the party wall when she was in. If she was in the garden she talked loudly to the dog and smoked non-stop. The less said about the other side the better, but I was on first name terms with most of the local police...

Background noise when you're awake, and white noise at night can really help. The quieter you are, the more impression any other noise makes. Can you set a radio to come on quietly in the mornings to reduce the impact of the phone calls?

HollySocks_2

White noise definitely helps. Or having a radio on quiet. There’s a great podcast called ‘Sleep with me’ - I challenge anyone to listen to more than 20 minutes of that and not fall asleep.

But if you can try and not let it get to you, not to lie there with it ticking around in your head, getting all worked up, you’ll find it so much easier to get back to sleep.

My current neighbour will wake me up at least once every other night. But you know, the fact that I’m now over 40 and need the lav 3 times a night, well that wakes me up, all the time.

Thing could be so, so much worse for you. Try and tell yourself that sometimes and you might not get so wound up. I’m not being dismissive of your situation at all. But getting wound up over it, just means you will lie there awake all the time and find it hard to nod off again.