Next door neighbour still being noisy despite telling her...

Norman_Castle

Sophie_10 wrote: »

It's just if I was making these noises and waking people up and they told me, I'd be mortified and do anything I could to keep it down! I think that's why I'm struggling

You're judging her by your standards which she clearly doesn't have. From experience noisy people are often selfishly ignorant of how noisy they are but will quickly complain about others noise.
I often drown out noisy overnight talking with radio 4. It distracts me from the talking and gives me control over what I hear which makes it more tolerable. If it annoys the neighbour thats a bonus. A problem shared is a problem halved!

Sophie_10

What the heck are you on about? I'm not getting upset, I'm just asking for flipping advice and you're acting like I've flipping shot you! Sounds like you're the one with the chip on your shoulder! Someone still renting and not happy or something or got out of the bed the wrong side?! - oh wait I thought that was me! Nice use of big fancy words there, how much do you love the sound of your own voice out of 10?

lookstraightahead

People react to certain noises. I have a road outside and people are entitled to use it, but I hate traffic noise. I have a fan on all night which drowns it out.

Op the thing is, your lifestyle isn't the same as hers. You might quite possibly wake her if she has an afternoon sleep, there is no routine that is the 'correct' one.

Sophie_10

Ah, I don't think this quote post thing is working, Norman. I keep selecting quote but it's doing quick reply!

Norman_Castle

Sophie_10 wrote: »

What the heck are you on about? I'm not getting upset, I'm just asking for flipping advice and you're acting like I've flipping shot you! Sounds like you're the one with the chip on your shoulder! Someone still renting and not happy or something or got out of the bed the wrong side?! - oh wait I thought that was me! Nice use of big fancy words there, how much do you love the sound of your own voice out of 10?

Presumably you're responding to the smug, self serving post #31.


PLEASE USE THE QUOTE BUTTON!


Copy and paste then
if the quote button doesn't work.

Sophie_10

lookstraightahead wrote: »

People react to certain noises. I have a road outside and people are entitled to use it, but I hate traffic noise. I have a fan on all night which drowns it out.

Op the thing is, your lifestyle isn't the same as hers. You might quite possibly wake her if she has an afternoon sleep, there is no routine that is the 'correct' one.

I can imagine people are entitled to use roads of course!

And, of course, I understand her lifestyle is different to mine. LIKE I SAID, I CAN SEE IT FROM HER SIDE. To repeat, I can see where she is coming from. If she told me that she has an afternoon sleep, I would try and keep it down for her. There is perhaps not a 'correct' routine. However, most would consider late at night or very early in the morning where they are getting woken up disruptive. I was asking for advice, not a debate or argument. I'm trying out all options so she doesn't have to do anything, I was, again, just after some advice!

suki1964

Living in a terrace is difficult if you are noise sensitive

When I lived in one we had the neighbour from hell on one side. Oh don't get me wrong, she wasn't noisy, but she was noise sensitive to the extreme and complained about daily living noise, even knocking my door at 3am one winters morning because my boiler had kicked in ( new boiler, opposite side of the house to hers)

It was true that if I sat in my house alone during the day with no background noise of my own - tv/radio - I could hear everything my neighbours the other side did - even down to taking a pee

So that's how I got past hearing them, kept the radio or tv on. With her, there was no pleasing, we even went to mediation, agreed I wouldn't do my washing after 8pm, put the tv on a different wall, etc etc, but still she would complain until the council threatened her with eviction for harressment

We moved eventually ( same as the last 3 owners ) and we bought detached

lookstraightahead

Sophie_10 wrote: »

I can imagine people are entitled to use roads of course!

And, of course, I understand her lifestyle is different to mine. LIKE I SAID, I CAN SEE IT FROM HER SIDE. To repeat, I can see where she is coming from. If she told me that she has an afternoon sleep, I would try and keep it down for her. There is perhaps not a 'correct' routine. However, most would consider late at night or very early in the morning where they are getting woken up disruptive. I was asking for advice, not a debate or argument. I'm trying out all options so she doesn't have to do anything, I was, again, just after some advice!

I was actually trying to help by saying I have a problem with road noise so use a fan. My road used to be quiet and then a massive housing estate was built and now people use the road, mainly speeding, and it drives me insane. So I use a fan.

It's too hard to ask her not to talk (my hubbue has such a loud snore but nothing he can really do) so I think it's best to use ear plugs/sleep in a different room and so on.

I wasn't looking for a debate either on this particular thread so I will move on and good luck.

iammumtoone

Sophie_10 wrote: »

However, most would consider late at night or very early in the morning where they are getting woken up disruptive.

7am is not considered early. I believe the official night time is 11-7 anything outside of this is daytime and any noise is accepted. Because you have a medical condition that you need extra sleep I don't mean to sound harsh but this is your issue and not the neighbours.

Personally I am with you I don't want to be woken up at 7 on a weekend but my neigbours always do their hovering at around that time on a Saturday on a weekday sometimes I hear their alarm at 5am. It is just what you have to put up with if you can only afford a terrace house, you do get used to it.

I suggest you move your bed into a different room, you could still leave the wardrobes in the main bedroom.

suki1964

Sophie_10 wrote: »

I can imagine people are entitled to use roads of course!

And, of course, I understand her lifestyle is different to mine. LIKE I SAID, I CAN SEE IT FROM HER SIDE. To repeat, I can see where she is coming from. If she told me that she has an afternoon sleep, I would try and keep it down for her. There is perhaps not a 'correct' routine. However, most would consider late at night or very early in the morning where they are getting woken up disruptive. I was asking for advice, not a debate or argument. I'm trying out all options so she doesn't have to do anything, I was, again, just after some advice!

Your only option really is to have your side of the wall soundproofed. Even fitted wardrobes on that wall will help muffle the sound

The other thing,, if you don't mind me saying, I don't mean any rudeness, is that you have possibly become really fixated with it and thats why its sounding so worse then it possibly would be for someone else. If you could relax about it, concentrate on something else, the sound might not penetrate to you so much and you may find you sleep through it because it becomes normal

I don't think Ive expressed that too well but I hope you understand what I mean. Same as people having a train going past every few minutes, it becomes the norm, they stop hearing them