When / how to kick out a nightmare lodger?

sevenhills

PasturesNew wrote: »

You're a loon magnet.

You need to get somebody else to vet your lodgers as you clearly can't spot the oddballs....

My only lodger had a main residence over 60 miles away, are most lodgers poor, and maybe more odd than average?

Blondetotty

For info my split was

Amazing
Male - Doctor (married, very late 30's/early 40's)

Bad
Female - student (mid 20's, Spanish)
Male - Tennis coach (divorced, late 30's)
Male - company director (divorced, early 40's)
Male - IT (single, mid 30's)

On the fence
Female - student (early 20's, Italian)

To be fair all of them presented and came across very well but I really do believe you don't know someone until you live with them. What they find normal you may not (guy liked playing a recorder in the early hours to "relax" - No bud, I'm trying to effing sleep here).

I believe we're all weird, we've all got weird little things we do, we just need to find the compatible kind of weird that fits with our weird.

FreeBear

bobwilson wrote: »

We've also heard of many horror stories from prospective tenants about their past experiences with housemates.

It isn't just housemates... My current was telling me about a previous LL - Wanted her to fill in a questionnaire about BDSM and "stuff". Definitely not the sort of thing to ask of a vulnerable young lady or anyone else for that matter.

bobwilson

sevenhills wrote: »

My only lodger had a main residence over 60 miles away, are most lodgers poor, and maybe more odd than average?

We thought about that too- but our best lodgers were a mix of poor or comfortable. When we were lodgers, we were very poor & didn't behave like this.

sevenhills wrote: »

How many of yours were male/female?

I'll check.. of the bad ones:
A male, 27
B male, 26
C female, 32
D female, 22
E male, 19
F male, 37
G female, 43 (looks 25!)

Good ones:
H female, 26
I female, 24
J female, 25

bobwilson

FreeBear wrote: »

It isn't just housemates... My current was telling me about a previous LL - Wanted her to fill in a questionnaire about BDSM and "stuff". Definitely not the sort of thing to ask of a vulnerable young lady or anyone else for that matter.

No one's saying it's only housemates- I've had my fair share of dodgy landlords as a lodger / tenant myself over the years. It seems to be hard to find decent people in general !

bobwilson

Blondetotty wrote: »

For info my split was

Amazing
Male - Doctor (married, very late 30's/early 40's)

Bad
Female - student (mid 20's, Spanish)
Male - Tennis coach (divorced, late 30's)
Male - company director (divorced, early 40's)
Male - IT (single, mid 30's)

On the fence
Female - student (early 20's, Italian)

To be fair all of them presented and came across very well but I really do believe you don't know someone until you live with them. What they find normal you may not (guy liked playing a recorder in the early hours to "relax" - No bud, I'm trying to effing sleep here).

I believe we're all weird, we've all got weird little things we do, we just need to find the compatible kind of weird that fits with our weird.

I had the same experience- we should all tally our data to try and find a pattern in good vs bad types!

Mine were:

Good
Female - Unemployed chiropractor (mid 20's, spanish)
Female - Student in business (early 20s, polish)
Female - Artist (mid 20s, english)
Female - IT (mid 20s, italian)

On the Fence
Male - IT (late 20s, chinese)

Bad
Female - Actress (late 20s, eastern european)
Male - History teacher (late 20s, american)
Male - Student creative (early 20s, english)
Female - Tattoo artist (mid 20s, portugese)
Female - Unemployed creative (early 40s, chinese)
Male - Artist (late 30s, spanish)
Male - Office job (late 20s, french)

I'll update if I've forgotten any!

Blondetotty

FreeBear wrote: »

It isn't just housemates... My current was telling me about a previous LL - Wanted her to fill in a questionnaire about BDSM and "stuff". Definitely not the sort of thing to ask of a vulnerable young lady or anyone else for that matter.

Good God! That's not right at all. I mean I've got a toy bag but it's kept in my room and my personal life is just that, my personal life. They're lodgers, not potential play partners!
Although *sighs* I do know the type you're talking about sadly.

FreeBear

My experience of the lunatic fringe - https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5848168/lodger-wanting-to-cook

ThePants999

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bobwilson

ThePants999 wrote: »

This was a great read Thanks for posting!

Did you mean FreeBear or the op? :rotfl: