Should i ignore my partners flirting?

hb2

I think it is impossible for any of us to know whether this behaviour is simply major flirting or whether there is more to it. The problem, OP, is that you are not happy with it. You are reading his phone which means that you don't really trust him - and he clearly feels that this is a breach of his trust. I know I couldn't live in a relationship without mutual trust but YMMV.

hazyjo

Mojisola wrote: »

That doesn't sound like something you could excuse by being 'regional behaviour'!

Oh absolutely, I agree. It was more in response to the poster above me. Saying that, it's not nice, but I don't think he'd be saying it like that if there was more going on.


I would be checking his photos (and more likely his google pics account where he may not know his photos get stored or some cloud type thing - I'm not very techie lol). If there are rude pics (d*** pics!), then it's a bit more than just 'banter'.

Comms69

Blackbeard_of_Perranporth wrote: »

I got to the point of ex wife

get a locksmith and ….

And do what?

SuperPikachu

Comms69 wrote: »

And do what?

Elope to a faraway land on a Pirate Ship

Mumsy3

There's no rude pics. Its mainly the hearts and kisses emojis that bother me 😍

swingaloo

Just out of interest, how did the 2 of you first meet?

74jax

Mumsy3 wrote: »

There's no rude pics. Its mainly the hearts and kisses emojis that bother me 😍

Not that he keeps saying he won't do it again,but does?

If that is what bothers you, don't look.

Mumsy3

We met at a mutual friends party.

pickledonionspaceraider

It is really hard to judge without knowing him OP

Some people just sign off a message with a x these days.

Do you trust him?

I would never cheat on my husband, never in a million years (not that anyone would look twice at me). I am lucky to have him and never ever want to be without him. But if I knew he was going through my phone or messages - I would feel like the light had gone out from some part of our relationship - I am not trusted. I don't know if i could live like that

Honestly leave the snooping to the teenagers and at age 50+ you know he is who is IS, and you cannot and should not be trying to change him, he is either who you want him to be, or he isn't

He hasn't changed. He hugs and kisses everyone he knows - you know this. He cannot be different when you are not around, this is who he is

sheramber

Presumably he was like this when you met him.

Has been like this for many years.

Why do you think he should change now?

Maybe you are a bit sensitive to the issue from your previous experience of marriage but he is who he is. People do not change.

In over 50 years of marriage neither my husband or I have snooped on the other party's emails, computer or phone

You will drive him away.