How much housekeeping for 19 year old?

ms_london

RP2X wrote:

200 per month !

Now I feel guilty myself about giving my mum so little and im 27

I only give 50 quid per month if maybe £100 and help out about the house with other payments every now and then.

Thats apalling, and at 27, well, you should know better.

I expect you'll be one of these people that is still living with their parents when you are 40!!

But I suppose thats not the issue, if you were paying your way it wouldnt be so bad - even £50 a week is cheap, but £50 a month. More fool your parents.

Ms_London

mah_jong

I earn around what your daughter does....

I pay mortgage, council, tax, leccy, tv, phone , etc etc....

I have had lodgers in the past and charged £50 a room and whilst it included all heating/ washing /tumble dryer etc costs, they paid for thier own food on top.

So no ....its not too much. I would suggest she trys it elsewhere ( you will miss her no doubt) BUT she will prob be back in about 3 months. I would try to cut out the loans between pay days too..... just a thought!

nearlyrich

Liverbird wrote:

She says she is looking around for a flat share.... but everyone we know reckons she won't last 5 minutes.

It may sound harsh but that could be the best move she ever makes to find out how tough the real world actually is, my son's friend was told his board would be £50 per week from 1st September after leaving school in July last year. He thought that was ridiculous and announced his intention to move out... he then discovered he could rent a room for £50 per week so he got a second part time job and paid his parents.

Most adults don't have £125 per week money to do exactly what they want with so not paying her way is unrealistic in my opinion.

lush_walrus

I think it all depends on your financial situation really. I didnt ever pay housekeeping while I was living at home as my parents wouldnt ever take it. And I grew up to be responsible with money and have a huge degree of respect for my parents and family, with or without making payments.

Im not sure what is right and wrong in these situations. My parents logic was that they didnt need the money and felt that it was a pointless act to take money from me at the stage when I needed money to save for a deposit to buy a house etc. They were also aware that at some stage their money would be mine, and wanted to prevent myself and my sister paying as much inheritance tax as possible.

From reading this thread I think its a bit unfair to state that someone paying £50 a month is wrong, she is paying what her parents want so where is there anything wrong!!.

We all have our own ways of teaching our children how to grow into adults, teaching respect for fellow people & family can be taught in many many ways, not just in taking money.

Jay-Jay_4

Why don't you split the bills in half and let her pay her half instead of the £200?

I think she'd soon change her mind about what's 'fair' if she knew just exactly how much it costs to live in a house with heating and lighting, water and food.

Actually, I'm a hypocrite because I didn't pay any keep but I only earned £400 a month and bought all my own food, toiletries etc and I just slept at my parents house about 4 nights a week.

nadnad

Liverbird - why don't you sit down with your daughter and go through all the household expenses - ALL OF THEM - from toothpaste to mortgage. As pointed out previously - Do you have £500 at the end of each month to do with what you please? I dare say most people would be thrilled with that - what on earth does she do with £500? If shes talking about moving out then go through with her all that she would have to pay in a flat share or whatever - she will soon realise that she has it very good where shes at!

Me and my mum were on our own since I was 11 when I was 14 I got a job and from that point on whenever I needed clothes or anything I bought them myself I also paid my part of the phone bill, some people may say thats disgraceful but it taught me the value of money, and my mum didn't earn very much so it was a weight off her mind. To this day I am mindful of the money I spend and am very careful. May I also say that I would gladly go back home to mum now if I only had to give her £200 per month instead of mortgage, rates, insurances, tv, phone ....the list goes on!

RP2X

I may only pay £50 per month but I also have to pay £20 odd tax then £160 on council tax and I still pay for take outs and bits n bobs for the house per month.... So im paying 200-250 per month already I should have added that in my 1st post lol

My older sister does the same as above but £100 since shes on a better salary then me, but I will follow suit and do £100 soon since my wages is going up.

Or does that still sound too little?!

RP2X

rofl that link on the 1st page, theres people there on 25k and 30k per year giving 30 quid weekly and 100 quid per month!

I think theres still some confusment surrounding these type of threads Ie is this just food money or bills or are they in council/own there own property since this makes all the difference, I still am doing £200-250 overall on all house cost easily per month, but could be wrong let me know if I am

girleight@

I reckon that if you don't need the money then save it up and give it to her when she needs a deposit for a house or something. If you do need the money at least as much as she does then you shouldn't feel bad taking it. This seems to be the most sensible point people make when this topic comes up.

squeaky

Hi. I've joined this thread late, I know, and I have to tell you first of all that I left home at 16, found it real tough... but never went back.

I can tell you that pretty much the cheapest acommodation anywhere is council. My two up two down can't swing a cat (not that I'd try 'cos she's such a sweetie ) is £50.00 per WEEK.

THEN just like everyone alse I pay gas and electric and phone and water (and of course, obviously, internet) and food and clothes and...

In this day and age you are very definintely NOT over charging.

However, if you have problems with the level because you feel guilty, then by all means either talk it over with your lass, or reduce the rent to what YOU are happy with, or, as also suggested, set some portion of her rent aside that you are happy with for either her first place or her wedding gift - whichever happens first