Not being born a son.

Mojisola

Poor_Single_lady wrote: »

My sister followed football as a child but now at a game has a face like a sour lemon. Constantly points at people in the crowd and asks what they are doing, asks what time it finishes, Complains about being cold and clearly would rather be anywhere else.

Why does she go?

Poor_Single_lady

Because Fear-of-missing-out is very powerful.

pickledonionspaceraider

There are some very scathing comments to be read on here, ie accusing OPs dad of not having any emotional intelligence, to name one. Really not fair

~_Daisy_~

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

There are some very scathing comments to be read on here, ie accusing OPs dad of not having any emotional intelligence, to name one. Really not fair

Yes, I was feeling this too, just for the recored my Dad is wonderful in many many ways. And he is the only Dad I have!

It is my issue not his and as many have said he is probably not even aware of it.

Having voiced my frustrations has helped and will talk to him when time and oppotuninity allows.

thorsoak

Your dad is aged what? Late 70s? Unless you (or your mum) have dragged him, screaming and kicking into the 21st Century, he is a man of HIS time - when a dad and his lads would go to the matches, to the pub afterwards, etc etc etc. Why don't you just tell him - "oh - next rugby match, I'm coming too" Don't ask - just tell him! You don't need permission to join him and your brothers! Actually - how old are your children? Why don't you take them (plus your OH) to introduce them to the game too.

Whilst I was never too keen to go and watch the rugby ....spent far too many Saturday afternoons trying to keep warm behind a tree, watching OH, then too many Sunday mornings watching my 3 sons getting the life kicked out of them/kicking the life out of other mums' sons) my daughter was so keen - and now, with her OH plus two offspring, they follow England all around the world! Me - I'm happy to ignore it all now :-D - and your mum may well be the same!

Savvy_Sue

Actually Mum may be another reason Dad doesn't invite the OP to join the boys: thinking that she won't be left on her own while 'the boys' are off watching a big game.

And / or plus Dad expecting that if the OP wants to go, she and her DH will do so.

liney

That's exactly what I was thinking Sue. If mom were to start being left on her own, mom might start giving dad a hard time about going away so often, so his reasoning is to keep mom happy by excluding Daisy...

chesky

You don't really mention your own partner and children very much. Why don't you all go as a family and join your father and brothers.

~_Daisy_~

chesky wrote: »

You don't really mention your own partner and children very much. Why don't you all go as a family and join your father and brothers.

I dont need to mention my own partner and children, they are 25, 28 and 32........ and my partner is happy to watch matches on the TV, goes to a few local games etc, this was never about them, suffice to say my own children could go if they wished, and have done before.

This was not about what I do with my own children or husband but about my Dad and I.

Mr_Singleton

~_Daisy_~ wrote: »

It all about the game in my Father's eyes, Rugby not Football, if it makes any difference.

Of course it matters..... people interested in football drink Shandy while rugby men drink men’s drinks and like women.

Anyway...... moving swiftly on!

My mother takes my sister out and does similar female type things is there more to it than just the men bonding thing that your not saying?