Slept through the Wake-Up Call and no money in the meter for a Lightbulb Moment.

PositiveBalance

Hi PendulumMan,

That would annoy me, too.

Random thought...have you considered counseling? It might help your 'fight everyone and everything' mindset and that if you don't you are somehow failing? Perhaps it might enable you to relax a bit? (I hear that cortisol, the stress hormone, helps keep weight on.)

I know that seems a bit random, but perhaps thinking things through with a neutral party might help get to the bottom of that mindset and help you change it, if you decide that's what you want to do.


Best of luck with everything. We are all rooting for you.

PendulumMan

Much obliged for the responses - the late neighbour's family decided to put the recycling bins in front of my driveway this morning - I don't get it, but then some humans are impossible to reason with. Regarding counselling, I actually had a few sessions of it midway through last year through my workplace - we have a lot of stuff going on, and on my final session with the psychologist she told me that my childhood was one of the most extreme she had encountered and she was in awe of my survival mechanisms and capacity for forgiveness. I wasn't sure whether to be terrified or flattered, so in the end settled for a kind of hollow. The risk with counselling is that a bad counsellor can do a lot more damage and set you back further than you already were. Obviously good counsellors achieve incredible results but it's all a bit Russian Roulette for my liking.

I now have definitive answers regarding my health - not brilliant, but manageable if I take things seriously. I'm hoping the Personal Trainer session will give me some more pointers as long as I can learn to take advice. Got 10000 steps in yesterday and provided I do a couple of hundred circuits around the lounge slowly dizzying myself further into insanity I can do the same tonight.

My cat appears to be singing with a sort of Norfolk lilt to her mewing. It's quite unpleasant and I need to find out what's going on.

Kitten868

My neighbour won't let anyone park in front of his house. He blocks you in beeping his horn long and loud if you do. Despite this he has 2 cars and a big pick up work thing and 6 kids that come over every day. Sometimes the partners of the children come over in seperate cars. It's total mind melting madness. I feel your pain. My mum has just had to plant bushes around her house as people walk across her path, grass and plants instead of the pavement. Not children. Grown adults. Every time. Other people are just rude. Good news is it doesn't sound like they'll be a problem for long.

Keep ploughing forward with your daily health goals. You can take control of this. You're doing great xxx

Igamogam

Welcome back

PendulumMan

Hmmmm. Today's session with the personal trainer did not go according to plan. Halfway through the registration process he actually spotted the part about cardiac issues and declared he would have to pass me onto a colleague. I think he was looking for a get-out as by then he had already had two sets of scales fail to take my weight, had been unable to get an accurate reading on my height, and looked absolutely crestfallen when I told him that I've never taken sugar in tea or coffee (nor sweeteners), only drink skimmed milk, could happily outstare a cake for months on end without eating it and already walk around 10000 steps a day. I could see the inner turmoil where he just wanted to ask me "so why the f are you so fat then?" but couldn't. Eventually a set of elephant scales were found and I now know I'm 3kg past the top limit of my home set, so fingers crossed I should be able to measure myself again pretty soon. I have a follow up meeting with the cardiac guy on Saturday where hopefully I will get to see some gym equipment.

On the plus side at work, quite a tricky hurdle was jumped through today and serious progress made on another issue that has been thorning my side for a while. No more bin malarky neither.

The cat is being suspiciously quiet and probably wants me to go watch the news with her. So I shall.

PositiveBalance

PendulumMan wrote: »

Regarding counselling, I actually had a few sessions of it midway through last year through my workplace - we have a lot of stuff going on, and on my final session with the psychologist she told me that my childhood was one of the most extreme she had encountered and she was in awe of my survival mechanisms and capacity for forgiveness. I wasn't sure whether to be terrified or flattered, so in the end settled for a kind of hollow. The risk with counselling is that a bad counsellor can do a lot more damage and set you back further than you already were. Obviously good counsellors achieve incredible results but it's all a bit Russian Roulette for my liking.

That's very interesting. You strike me as a man who knows quality when he sees it. Reckon you could notice qualities in a human that could make a good counsellor and that it might be worth considering again, given that you can not go again if you think that you don't have a good therapeutic relationship with them?

PendulumMan wrote: »

I now have definitive answers regarding my health - not brilliant, but manageable if I take things seriously.

I'm glad it's not worse than it is an that it's manageable. Here's to successful managing! :beer:

PendulumMan wrote: »

Hmmmm. Today's session with the personal trainer did not go according to plan. Halfway through the registration process he actually spotted the part about cardiac issues and declared he would have to pass me onto a colleague. I think he was looking for a get-out as by then he had already had two sets of scales fail to take my weight, had been unable to get an accurate reading on my height, and looked absolutely crestfallen when I told him that I've never taken sugar in tea or coffee (nor sweeteners), only drink skimmed milk, could happily outstare a cake for months on end without eating it and already walk around 10000 steps a day. I could see the inner turmoil where he just wanted to ask me "so why the f are you so fat then?" but couldn't. Eventually a set of elephant scales were found and I now know I'm 3kg past the top limit of my home set, so fingers crossed I should be able to measure myself again pretty soon. I have a follow up meeting with the cardiac guy on Saturday where hopefully I will get to see some gym equipment.

You do make me laugh! :rotfl:


On the upside, only 3Kg before you can torture yourself at home on the scales...that's good, right?!



Oh, PendulumMan, I could do with losing a few Kgs as well as £s. I may have to invest in a FatBit or similar myself...

AliBee16

3 kg is only about 7 pounds. You could probably lose that in a few weeks. You sound like you know what you are doing but I wanted to say I thought I was a lost cause but have been going to weightwatchers and find the group support really useful. Really easy to do and flexible as well once you get your head round it. For me it will be a life-time thing but that won't be too difficult as I feel much healthier having lost some weight, which is great motivation

Igamogam

PendulumMan wrote: »

Obviously good counsellors achieve incredible results but it's all a bit Russian Roulette for my liking.

You and me both. A friend of mine - a very good and experienced counsellor once told me if I ever thought of, or it was suggested to me to have counselling for any reason then think twice. She was of the opinion I was not counsellable....not a word but YKWIM!

I get it re the weight and the PT. I have had ongoing crumbly knees and know keeping the weight off is keeping the surgeon's orthopaedic hacksaw at bay. The specialist GP I saw suggested I saw a dietitian........he regretted the suggestion as I said I was not prepared to be told by some skinny pale individual to eat 1000 calories a day based on low fat, sugar loaded substitutes. My diet was probably far better/ healthier than anything they could suggest. I opted for a DIY LOW carb - not NO carb - diet after much research and the Kgs dropped off. Became a slave to my fitb!t and made use of that gym membership - swim, rowing machine, some resistance stuff and put yoga back in the schedule that I had left behind for almost 2 years. I eat anything I want, in moderation. I now eat very little bread pasta rice or potatoes and when I do it is weighed....70g of pasta is really not a lot but you soon get use to it ! I dont eat much fruit except berries but increased the vegetable contents of my meals. I can leave alcohol and chocolate behind but will have if I want. There is no low fat anything in our house:D Didnt deny myself anything over Christmas and was not as active as usual but now back in the swing and losing 500g a day. I did wonder if I had a thyroid problem once but had it checked out and all OK....what have you had checked other than stuff related to your cardiac health...?

Keep going Mr P. You will work out what suits you best.

Igamogam

CCW007 wrote: »

My P60 shows my salary as my pre tax income after pension contributions have been applied.

So glad I found that^^^^^^ as my P60 didnt look right either but that would make sense....still going to query it though

Igamogam

PendulumMan wrote: »

if I'm not fighting the system at work then I'm a failure, if I'm not pushing back then I'm a walkover, if I'm not fighting then I'm a victim. No wonder I can't relax, can't sleep and can't get my weight under control. Hmm.

Have you looked at Mindfulness - I am not advocating you should go full steam ahead with it but I have dipped my toes into it and it helped me see that a situation which was a perpetual thorn in my side and a source of great anger was really not worth the mental angst.......... the change freaked out my colleagues and has totally flummoxed the source of my anger! I dont practice every day but if I need it I use it and to good effect. The other thing people rave about it the Inner Chimp...havent looked at it myself but do know others who have changed their lives after reading the books.