Your biggest regret

Rubik

Regrets? I've had a few. My main one I guess was spending far too much time when I was younger (20s and 30s) worrying about what other people thought of me.

SuperPikachu

Mine was being the quickest sperm.

But being serious I (as down as I get) try not to dwell on "regrets" - it is incredibly unhealthy for somebody with my mindset and thought patterns.

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onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

I am both an introvert and shy (they are different things) and probably about twice your age.

I have a handful of close friends (at the "would invite to my wedding if I ever have one and make sure the date is one they could attend" threshold) and rather more accquaintances. One from secondary school, one a former work colleague that left our company seven or eight years ago, one from a hobby, one from my time online gaming 15 years ago (Everquest) and one that was initially a friend of hers, but is now simply another of my friends.

All of them I see very occasionally (introvert - socializing is really tiring so I have to restrict it), I don't have this regular social group that some people have. I accumulate friends very slowly, when I was mid twenties I'd met exactly one of the people listed above.

So, don't despair, you have time yet.

Oh and of the five people I listed above, three are women (I'm not). Some people find that odd.

That gives me a little hope - I've only ever had work friends and lost touch after leaving places, and I now work by myself so feel very isolated, not having the old work friends anymore.

Once I get back running I think I will feel better as I'm part of a club, but the thought of trying to make any friends as an adult is daunting - where and how mostly!

Rubik

SSDD23 wrote: »

That gives me a little hope - I've only ever had work friends and lost touch after leaving places, and I now work by myself so feel very isolated, not having the old work friends anymore.

Once I get back running I think I will feel better as I'm part of a club, but the thought of trying to make any friends as an adult is daunting - where and how mostly!

You are not alone - I'm in my late 40s and have always struggled to make - and keep - friends. It can take me a long time to remove the barriers and let people in. Like Onomatopoeia, I'm an introvert and being around people can be exhausting (even people I like), and my social anxeity can kick off big time. I've found volunteering helpful - the place where I volunteer is an experimental archaeology farm/settlement and I can learn new skills from very interesting like-minded people. Equally, I can do things on my own such as crafts which I enjoy anyway. We are all a bit odd, so my oddness and introvertness isn't a problem (in fact it's readily accepted without any issue).

Would volunteering be an option for you to meet people?

Some people don't need lots of friends, some like to be friends with everyone and anybody (my sister is one such person - how she keeps up with everyone I've no idea!).

ognum

SandraX wrote: »

If you bother to read my post you;d noted that it was before my employment.
But don't worry as I've met people like you before.

Where does it say it was before your employment?

candygirl

Organza_Lace wrote: »

If i'd listened to my Mum i'd still be with my first husband.... never in a million years!

If I'd listened to mine, I'd have never been with my 1st Hubby:rotfl:

moneyistooshorttomention

Pollycat wrote: »

I can't argue with this ^^^^.


The OP's 2nd regret shouldn't be about sharing a secret but about lying to HR.


Two can keep a secret if one of them is dead.

I think we all can think of times where we've made an error of judgement and shared a secret with a Blabber (not realising that they were one). Most of the time the Blabber just causes us some embarrassment and doesn't alter the course of our lives with their blabbing.

I guess one can only be thankful if we've had a Blabber episode or two that only resulted in embarrassment before we shared something "Really Big" with someone and we've therefore realised how many people are untrustworthy in time before we shared anything "Really Big" and therefore haven't done so.

moneyistooshorttomention

SandraX wrote: »

You are lucky in a sense as i have met people that decide to have none and regretted it.

Waves in greeting - as someone who decided never to have any children (no matter what the circumstances) and is only too pleased that I never did have any. I've literally never had one single moment of regret - and I'm now in my 60's:D

I'm very pleased I didn't want any.:D

Sammie36

Not telling my partner how much he meant to me every day. He died suddenly 9 weeks ago and I'm really struggling with this.

Red-Squirrel_2

SandraX wrote: »

Very sad poster.:(

Have we got Donald Trump posting? :rotfl: