Blackmailed over fraud, in a state, help!

jimbo26

You really don't have anything to fear, you have shacked up with some dodgy bloke who has a dodgy family, and is trying it on. I suspect you will continue to get grief from him over the next few months because this is what idiots like him do when a relationship breaks down. He is trying to control you, and may use this as a lever to get the relationship back.

A bit of free advice, when you meet a bloke in the future, spend a bit of time getting to know him before moving him in. It's a lot harder getting shot of them if their feet are under the table.

P.S it's mum not mom.

Faith177

jimbo26 wrote: »

You really don't have anything to fear, you have shacked up with some dodgy bloke who has a dodgy family, and is trying it on. I suspect you will continue to get grief from him over the next few months because this is what idiots like him do when a relationship breaks down. He is trying to control you, and may use this as a lever to get the relationship back.

A bit of free advice, when you meet a bloke in the future, spend a bit of time getting to know him before moving him in. It's a lot harder getting shot of them if their feet are under the table.

P.S it's mum not mom.

Depends my OH is from the midlands and it's Mom up there for most people I know including him



OH just to give you a bit of a flip side of your situation I have just had my friend of 15 years and housemate of over 10 steal from me £250 from my bank account £80ish on my credit card and signed me up as a guarantor on a £2.5K amigo loan (luckily their ID checks stopped it being succesful) I reported it to action fraud and the police and they said there was nothing they could do as the banks would be refunding the money to me and that was with proof it was him that did it so I wouldn't worry too much x

charlotte1994

When people set up accounts, there is always a paper trail (or digital trail) if needed the police will look for it. This will be a pain in the !!! but it should be proven that you were not the one setting up those accounts.

jimbo26

Also your ex is probably known to the local cops, as from your post he and his family are dodgy to say the least, so they will take anything reported by him with a large pinch of salt.

As I said earlier I think he is trying to control you, he will probably send a message along the lines of 'if we get back together I'll drop the charges'

Block him on all social media, phone etc, and try to move on without worrying.

miniemma

I assumed the same as jimbo26, that your ex is probably known to the police and so probably hasn't even contacted them and is bluffing to scare you and it's working.

Keep screenshots of everything he has sent you, report him to the police and/or action fraud and block him.

But mostly, calm down, breath and trust in the system.

Paul_DNAP

You should be [strike]considering[/strike] going to the police yourself, partly to report your address being used to commit a fraud, but mainly to report the harassment and threats. That way you can take some sting out of his "I will report you to the cops" threat with a "they are already aware of it" reply.


If you're completely innocent of it then you have nothing to lose from cooperating with the investigation fully so that they can sort out exactly what happened.

TBagpuss

I would suggest that you contact the police. report to them that he is harassing you by making these threats. If he is demanding anything (e.g money) then let the police know about this.

I don't think you need to worry. If he were to carry out his threat then the police would not pursue you unless they had any evidence of fraud. If you explain that he was your boyfriend and used your address while you were together, then the worst case is that it is your word against his, in which case the chances of them thinking there is enough evidence to charge anyone is minimal.

Also, contact the company concerned, let them know that he does not live with you and that no further deliveries may be accepted to you address.

candygirl

Ring the police to get this mess sorted out asap, n please stop burdening your poor Son with all this .It's not fair for him to be worrying like this

eddddy

briannab2 wrote: »

i am so scared because i cant prove it was him, but he can prove it was me, after all its my address!!!

You don't go to prison because somebody else gives your address to commit fraud.

If that were true, I could give "10 Downing Street" as my address and say Theresa May did it, and Theresa May would be arrested.


(But maybe it's worth a try?)

sourcrates

briannab2 wrote: »

Hi
I am in a real state, my ex (who I was with for all of about 5 weeks!!!) has messaged me saying that someone has set up 4 accounts in HIS name using MY address and phone number. He says its me and he's reporting me to the companies and police for fraud.

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I didn't see the harm, so he did have about £300 of stuff delivered here!! He's saying I did it!!!!





To make it worse, I had his brother staying for a bit and I found out he'd run up £600 or more (who knows!!) in random names on cards/catalogues!!! I only found out when I was given a parcel in a random name and refused it!!!! I threw him out and it split me and the ex up!!






He said all this in front of my son!!! My little kid is now worried he's going to lose his mom to prison!!!!!

Looks to me like him and his brother have done a number on you, you are probably not the first trusting sole they have done this too, and you may not be the last either, they most likely have form for this and other petty fraud, and may be well known to the police.


He may be using this as a method of control, or simply using you as a cash cow, possibly both, you say you "didn`t see the harm in it" well this is the harm it can do.


Attempting to blackmail someone who is a little naive of the consequences of such actions is also a crime, do not agree to take any further part in this, if he keeps bothering you, report the whole thing to the police, take a screenshot of your posts and responses on this forum in case you need it as evidence.


I am not too sure of the credibility of this story, but my advice is given on the off chance you are the victim in all of this.