Just given my lodger notice

CocoLouie

Massive over reaction. But there is no point saying sorry now if she isn't allowed to stay.


I would bet that the clash of personalities was caused by you given how you have reacted to this and you previously saying she was very nice.


If you are prone to act like this with lodgers you should consider not having any more

Kynthia

Clearly it doesn't work for you to have a lodger who chops and changes when they stay each week. You prefer consistency and notice of occassionaly change. So you're not a good fit and it's best to find someone new and ensure it's someone who is more consistent.

capital0ne

breaking_free wrote: »

I've had lodgers previously and I've not had a problem. It's the "I expect 2 nights extra but I forgot to tell you" that I took exception to.

I suppose you took exception to her not being there for two nights on her one night stays without any notice, but you don't mention that.

You biggest mistake was dropping the rent, you should have stuck to 5 nights whether you use them or not.

Total over reaction on your part.

nrsql

breaking_free wrote: »

Hey everyone, I really do appreciate your comments.

I hold my hands up to being in the wrong. I did overreact, but as someone asked earlier there actually was a bit of an issue with personalities, which is why I woke up today feeling relieved that I've ended the contract.

I've had 7 lodgers previously and never had an issue with allowing them extra nights, letting friends stay over, etc. The difference in this case was that she admitted she's known since last week that she wanted extra nights but didn't tell me - just presented it as a fait accompli.

But you're all correct - the fault lies with me and I should have handled this better. Thanks for taking the time to set me right.

That's what I thought when I read the first post.
you didn't really want this lodger and this was an excuse or last straw. It is your home and you have to be comfortable with who is living in it.
Sure you could have said ok and if you had wanted to keep her I'm sure you would have. Sounds as if you were less than businesslike in the conversation but that's probably just the result of the underlying issue.

As to apologising - you could if it would make you feel better and it would probably help her when she looks back on it. Make sure her moving out is irrevocable though in case it turns into a conversation about her staying. Only apologise for the tone and maybe words.

financegeek

I think it's an over reaction but i probably would have done the same, which is why i don't have lodgers!

I don't like plans changing last minute, so if i'm expecting someone to be around for 3 days i would have planned my week accordingly. to suddenly find out they're wanting to stay 5 days would annoy me and if i was already frustrated that would likely be the final straw.

I'd be tempted to apologise, but don't expect a forgiving response. Maybe make it clear to your next lodger that you'll be flexible if you can but advance notice to change the arrangement is required?