Ex girlfriend says I owe her money

AnnonK

Okay so I guess I start at the beginning,
In January this year me and a girlfriend agreed to to move in together in a lovely new build..
Things quickly went south as she started just going out every weekend and work for me was slow at the start of the year (Carpet fittter) we had night joint Christmas gift to which I spent a lot of money, she paid for the rent for the first two months whilst I bought what I could for the house, she insisted on me buying a large nice tv rather then give her half of what I at the time felt I owed her for rent and bills..

As I say things went bad quickly she started going out every weekend and I quickly started feeling down about the situation and ended up feeling depressed from the strain on the relationship and the lack of work.

We needed up splitting up at the end of February which I didn’t want but obviously there wasn’t anything I could do to change her mind, the first thing that came to her mind was that she wanted money from me for the bills and also some stuff she got on credit on very,
As I agreed to stay in the house and run it by myself “struggling”

A lot happened between then and now which I don’t really feel doesn’t needed to be shared.

I later found out she had been seeing someone from work “ which I don’t know if it was during or after we broke up”
Which obviously completely changed my outlook on the break up and I soon ended up not feeling hurt and like I had lost someone, now her and her mother came up with some list of things she believed I owed her money for to which I said I’m not paying for, I told her she can take all the furniture she bought on credit but insisted I paid for it.
I then messaged her mother in the form of text saying she has one week to collect the furniture and after that week I would dismantle and drop it round at hers.
The day after I believe I received a email from my ex stating I have no right to contact any of her friends/family and not to turn up to their houses and if it continues she would file harassment with the police. As far as the “debt” I have to her she stated that she doesn’t know why I think I don’t owe her anything and that a third party will shortly be in touch, so after I got this email I did not respond or contact anyone again.
I spoke with a lady at citizens advise about my situation and she advised me to contact the police myself about the situation with this claim of harassment, and as far as the furniture goes if she isn’t showing any want to come collect it and isn’t willing for me to drop it round to basically do as she says and just hold onto it, I rang the police and informed them on the situation and they pretty much said the same unless I wanted to dismantle it and leave it outside the house but then most likely someone else would just take it.

Now this was back in April I think without checking dates on the email.
Since then I’ve got myself back on to my feet and found myself moved on and happy, started dating a girl whom I’ve been friends with for a lot of years.
Yesterday (Sunday) my doorbell started ringing loads so I answered to find my ex’s mother stood there, she started talking about how they haven’t gotten any money off me and how her daughter had used inheritance from her grandmother passing to pay off the furniture, I simply said I don’t owe her anything and if you would like it back I will go in and dismantle it now and bring it to you as I stated I would of done back in April, she refused that offer again and insisted on me giving her money.
It was all very embarrassing with her shouting outside my home at half Eleven in the morning.

She then went on to say that her daughter has a solid case with a lawyer involved to which I just replied ok if that’s how it needs to be then take me to small claims,
Also tried dragging my new girlfriend into the situation by saying it’s funny how we are now together and insinuating that I had been seeing her behind my ex’s back.

Now obviously I repeated what the citizens advise lady had told me and it was left at that.

Will be contacting citizens advise again tomorrow, just wondering if anyone has been in any other similar situation? If so what did you do, as she’s refusing for me to give her this furniture and I’m pretty confident that my ex and her new boyfriend attempted to confront me tonight.

Thanks in advance

BrassicWoman

you did change the locks, didn't you?


at the end of the rental period, move house and don't tell her where you went.


wait and see if they go to court. People who are really going to do that, tend to just do it, not whinge about doing it.

AnnonK

Thank you for the reply I did not change the locks but I made sure to get the key back from her as soon as the rental agreeement was changed to a solo tenancy in my name.
I would move however I simply love this house too much and will not be forced out by someone who made me feel miserable in the first place.

That’s what I thought after yesterday’s events and there’s been several months since I’ve heard anything just seems to of popped up again now that I’ve moved on and found happiness with someone else.

elsien

Simply refuse to engage in conversation with the ex's mother (or any other relative) at all. It's nothing to do with them.

Comms69

If she comes back just call
The police...

mattpaint

AnnonK wrote: »

I would move however I simply love this house too much and will not be forced out by someone who made me feel miserable in the first place.

Then you're choosing to enable this nonsense. It's a rented house, you don't own it. Just move and don't tell her or anyone connected to her where you're going and it's all solved.

gettingtheresometime

Just because she gave you back the key doesn't mean there's a spare lurking around somewhere.

I believe I'm right (but check!) but as long as you keep the original barrel & keys, refitting them before you leave, you can change the locks.

BrassicWoman

mattpaint wrote: »

Then you're choosing to enable this nonsense. It's a rented house, you don't own it. Just move and don't tell her or anyone connected to her where you're going and it's all solved.

Agreed, you are creating drama. Also who wants dissembled furniture on their doorstep? That’s an anger provoking offer.

BrassicWoman

Ps is she still paying out every month for furniture you need and are using? As in you’d have to replace it if she took it away?


Reads that way to me. I think that’s shady. Sell it on eBay and be a decent person. Just because it didn’t work out romantically doesn’t mean you get to be a bad person! I mean you can be. But it’d be a bad thing to do.

Comms69

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

Just because she gave you back the key doesn't mean there's a spare lurking around somewhere.

I believe I'm right (but check!) but as long as you keep the original barrel & keys, refitting them before you leave, you can change the locks.

Yes

And you don’t even have to do that; as long as the lock is of comparable quality and you return the same number of keys

Gilead

BrassicWoman wrote: »

Ps is she still paying out every month for furniture you need and are using? As in you’d have to replace it if she took it away?


Reads that way to me. I think that’s shady. Sell it on eBay and be a decent person. Just because it didn’t work out romantically doesn’t mean you get to be a bad person! I mean you can be. But it’d be a bad thing to do.

Ex bought the furniture, wanted reimbursed and he reasonably told her to come and take it as he didn't want it and offered to dismantle. It is not his responsibility to sell the furniture for her, she could have arranged to take it away. I don't see anything shady other than the ex not responding to his offer then her mother appearing at his door months later making demands.