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Left my home to give me and my ex partner space but now she has a new guy i have lost my home, Help!
jonesjd
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Hi
Back in June me and my ex partner "broke up" but as we were both just effected by my illness that i have had to deal with the last year and a half (depression related) we both never wanted to give up totally, and i moved back to my parents to give us space and the next 3 months went perfectly and i worked hard to get myself well enough to move back. During this time she has found another guy.
We are both jointly on the tenancy and all bills and the deposit was in my name, when we got the flat my ex partner didnt earn enough to get a place so i had all the referencing and i put all the first moneys down for the place, month n half rent and months deposit.
Now she has got the new guy she has totally binned me off despite travelling weekly to "our" place to see her and taking her away to places, she kept leading me on that we were going to get back together and work things out, just 2 weeks before she officially got with the new guy she was telling me how much she loved me and that she wished nothing went wrong with me and that we were still together.
Now i have a problem that she is wanting our flat, i gave up a 3 bed private rented house for our flat for our relationship (less rent to "save" to buy a house). But i also want the flat, i feel she has waited upto the point that she got a new job which pays more to pull this on me and kept me sweet for 4 months to keep me on the tenancy untill she could afford to take it from me.
What chance and what can i do to take the flat off her, she has dumped all my stuff out the flat and had me collect them. I am now worried that the last thing i have to show for my 6 year career (that is also ruined because of this illness) is going to be taken from me.
She has multiply family and friends in this town that can help her out as well as the new relationship, i have spent the last 4 weeks homeless and have no one that can take me in that has the space.
Thank you for any advice. Please im looking for advice on the flat/tenancy itself. I dont need relationship advice.
Jason.
Back in June me and my ex partner "broke up" but as we were both just effected by my illness that i have had to deal with the last year and a half (depression related) we both never wanted to give up totally, and i moved back to my parents to give us space and the next 3 months went perfectly and i worked hard to get myself well enough to move back. During this time she has found another guy.
We are both jointly on the tenancy and all bills and the deposit was in my name, when we got the flat my ex partner didnt earn enough to get a place so i had all the referencing and i put all the first moneys down for the place, month n half rent and months deposit.
Now she has got the new guy she has totally binned me off despite travelling weekly to "our" place to see her and taking her away to places, she kept leading me on that we were going to get back together and work things out, just 2 weeks before she officially got with the new guy she was telling me how much she loved me and that she wished nothing went wrong with me and that we were still together.
Now i have a problem that she is wanting our flat, i gave up a 3 bed private rented house for our flat for our relationship (less rent to "save" to buy a house). But i also want the flat, i feel she has waited upto the point that she got a new job which pays more to pull this on me and kept me sweet for 4 months to keep me on the tenancy untill she could afford to take it from me.
What chance and what can i do to take the flat off her, she has dumped all my stuff out the flat and had me collect them. I am now worried that the last thing i have to show for my 6 year career (that is also ruined because of this illness) is going to be taken from me.
She has multiply family and friends in this town that can help her out as well as the new relationship, i have spent the last 4 weeks homeless and have no one that can take me in that has the space.
Thank you for any advice. Please im looking for advice on the flat/tenancy itself. I dont need relationship advice.
Jason.
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The tenancy is in your sole name?
Move back in and kick her out. Chsnge the locks.
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You're on the tenancy. She can't prevent you from moving back in.
What sort of tenancy is it and when does it end/any break clauses?All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.
Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.0 -
both our names are on the tenancy and its a rolling periodic contract0
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Also she has been ignoring all my attempts to communicate and has even now gone to the police who have issued me with a PIN for harassment0
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The PIN can be issued on the word of one person with no substantiation. It is a warning that your behaviour, if it continues, couid constitute harrassment.
If you feel it has been issued unfairly then make a complaint to the relevant police force. If you've been locked out of your own home and there is no suggestion of abuse/intimidation, then it would seem to be pretty unfair to me.
Stop trying to phone her, if that's what you're doing. Write to her. Point out that either party can end the tenancy and see what response that gets.All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.
Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.0 -
Yes the PIN is not an issue for me, im just looking if there is a way i can do this without having to force myself in, i know i have every right to be on the property but i want her gone and my flat back...0
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Yes the PIN is not an issue for me, im just looking if there is a way i can do this without having to force myself in, i know i have every right to be on the property but i want her gone and my flat back...
It's her flat too. You're not any more entitled to be in it that she is and vice versa. If you can't decide who should stay you can let a court decide*. Alternatively either one of you can end the tenancy.
You might find Shelter's guide useful.
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* Not that I think it would be worth the time, effort and money of taking this to court.0 -
Would you not be better giving notice and moving on?0
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And avoiding getting a criminal record...0
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