Once your kids are earning should you charge them Housekeeping?

SmileBeHappy

halia wrote: »

why?

If you are earning more than £30 / week then why wouldn't you contribute to the household? tbh I think any adult who is prepared to live in a house and contribute nothing to the running of it is selfish!
(and I see kids over the age 16 as pretty much adults)

Maybe if your family is stinking rich they don't need the money to help out with bills, but that is unlikely on this site.

Well its not the done thing where i live, i certainly wudn't have offered, my parents dint need it
I had money, but was at college, i will be paying rent after uni i suppose

tattycath

margaretclare wrote: »

Emmy05, I don't know where you grew up if it wasn't the 'done thing' - it very definitely WAS the done thing where I grew up in a Yorkshire village, was the done thing where DH grew up in the outskirts of London. I haven't heard anyone else say it 'wasn't the done thing'!

Most people I know were expected to contribute the moment they had any earnings at all. Some were even expected to hand over money from their paper-round or Saturday job.

It's really all about making sure that young people grow up understanding that 'nothing is for nothing' and everything has to be paid for.

Margaret

Yes I agree. It's the first time I've heard of paying your way not being the done thing. I thought that paying your way WAS the done thing. It was where I grew up and my partner.

emmy05

whats the problem? i didnt pay rent to mine, and where i am, alot of my mates never did either, i guess there are cases of being different, all im saying is what i didnt have to do.

chocolatechipcookies

I moved out when I was 19, but when I had a job, I only paid the internet bill because it was mine. Other than that my mom paid everything. I wouldn't charge my kids anything to live with us.

ka7e

DS1 started part-time work at 16 and we financially supported him through college and University. He lived at home and commuted to Uni 3 days a week, keeping his part-time hours to pay train fares etc. He did get a Student Loan for 1 year and handed it straight to me for his "keep" and paid half the internet bills as his course demanded he have online access.

Last year he got his first full-time job and we agreed £240 per month was reasonable, that is everything all-in (no longer pays towards internet). He has a friend on the same salary who pays nothing for his keep and another on a much lower salary who lives independently and is very hard-up. DS's salary is big enough for him to save £500+ per month, he paid off his SL in full and has amassed a considerable sum in savings!

Last month he said "Mum, I'm putting the rent up" and transferred £300 into my account! He had researched local rents and worked out how much he would be paying if he lived on his own and decided he was underpaying me. I love him lots :kisses3:!

halia

emmy05 wrote: »

whats the problem? i didnt pay rent to mine, and where i am, alot of my mates never did either, i guess there are cases of being different, all im saying is what i didnt have to do.

its not about rent as such, if you have a third adult your costs go up. For example to feed me and DH costs maybe £40 a week, to feed someone else as well would be an extra £20 a week.
To heat an extra bedroom, wash the extra bedlinen and clothing (even if you the 'child' do the laundry there's the cost of electricity etc), light up the bedroom, power the laptop, heat the house even if DH and I aren't home etc etc.

There are COSTS involved, actually I think you post illustrated why its a good idea to ask grown up children to pay their way. So they understand exactly what it costs to put a load of washing on, turn the thermostat up and have a PC downloading from the net.

I certainly hope that my son will grow up to have the courtesy and maturity to offer to contribute and pay his way!

N71

ka7e wrote: »

Last month he said "Mum, I'm putting the rent up" and transferred £300 into my account! He had researched local rents and worked out how much he would be paying if he lived on his own and decided he was underpaying me. I love him lots :kisses3:!

What a brilliant son!?! I hope my DS and DD turn out as caring!

I was on a YTS in the 80's. £28.50 a week. And I used to give £10 to my parents. I probably got it back, and more, throught the week but it was the point that i was paying my keep.

emmy05

wow you sure do have an opinion of me, you dont see me judging you, as ive said in another thread, he works and pays for his petrol and expensive trainers, etc, seriously i wouldnt tell you what to do in your own house, i certainly didnt have my kids to intend charging them rent LOL

Voice_of_reason_5

Why do you all feel you have to subsidise your adult siblings?

k1mmie

It is not a case of having to subsidise our siblings. Maybe we want to and as emmy05 says, I have supported my kids all these years, why should I charge them rent because they are earning a wage. This is certainly an english thing, as many other cultures and countries do not impose a charge for their children to remain at home.