My DS is in trouble at school

portsmouthali

My little boy is also 6 in January, and has found the leap from reception to year 1 quite difficult. He's doing fine academically, but socially it's a different story. He often comes home and says no-one wanted to play with him at playtime (which breaks my heart!) and although he's had a couple of friends back for tea, which seemed to go well, no-one has asked him to tea. This doesn't bother me particularly as I know people have busy lives so I will encourage him to ask some other children back to ours. In particular, a little boy he was close to last year doesn't seem to want to know him this year, and gets a bit aggressive with him occasionally, which has upset him. His teacher says he's fine and is very social in class, but I think it's at playtime and lunchtime that he feels lonely. This wasn't an issue last year. We also have a parents evening coming up soon, so will go into it in more detail with his teacher then.

If it's any consolation, a friend of mine who is a classroom assistant says that year 1 is tricky for a lot of children, I guess as other have said it's because the emphasis is more on work than play which takes a bit of getting used to.

I don't think you can do any more than you're already doing. Is the headteacher approachable? You could always make an appointment to see him/her if this situation continues. Isn't it awful when your kids are unhappy?! Best of luck to you and Joe.

mrcow

portsmouthali wrote: »

He often comes home and says no-one wanted to play with him at playtime (which breaks my heart!)

Sorry if this sounds daft or simple - but give him a small sponge ball to take into school with him (if the school allow it). I did this last year for my son in YR as he was having problems with some boys being a little too physical with him. It really helped to focus the play, and also turned him into one of the most popular children in the playground overnight (as they all wanted to play with the ball :rolleyes:).

It may encourage others to play with him.....if it doesn't, at least it gives him something to play with by himself........

PS: don't forget to write his name on it! or you'll be forever replacing it!

Gingham_Ribbon

It's worth contacting these people. He may be bright and bored. http://www.nagcbritain.org.uk/contact.php They will speak to you on the phone and email information sheets, even if you're not a member.

FWIW, as a teacher and mother, I would not put up with a bright child being in a bottom set because of behaviour problems - that only makes matters worse.

He doesnt want to do sums he knows like 1+2=3 he likes doing sums like
1+?=3. I do do alot of work with him at home, should i maybe slow down so the school catches up with him?

Absolutely in no uncertain terms NO! THEY should be catching up with him and giving him appropriate work. If he is being set work that is not to his level it is NOT his fault or yours.