Old Style Daily Sunday 30th September 2018

TravellingAbuela

Afternoon folks. What an emotional day this has been. DD arrived at the hospice this morning with an enormous bouquet of flowers, a box of cupcakes, a bottle of Baileys and a collage of photos, starting with one of our wedding day and ending with a photo of us both in the Hospice garden last week, with Bob in his wheelchair. It was titled Love Lasts Forever and included lots of wise words (!) from the DGDs. This got blue-tacked on the wall beside the other photos stuck up there. Then I opened all the cards and they set me off again, each and every one of them. It has been a lovely day but such a sad one too. Bob has slept through most of it but was awake when the doctor called in. He spotted the Baileys and said there's no harm in him having a small glass but to let the nurses know. If it interacts with his morphine and he suddenly starts dancing round the room they need to know why! If only he could!

Just DD and eldest DGD here now, DS and Bob's DB left earlier. My DB was going to come up with SIL but I said maybe leave it until tomorrow as he has had a busy day and wanted to get back into bed. He can't stay awake for long.

Have a nice evening if you can folks xx ps ELONA I too didn't realise it was 3 years since you lost your DH. I would have said no more than 2 at the most. It's frightening how quickly time flies the older you get. ((HUGS)) SILVER-OLDIE xx

nannywindow

TA what a wonderful day you have had, such memories will last forever.
SilverOldie please don't be sad or down, you are doing the best you can and no one can ask you for more. Cherish the good times. Our retirement is not as I imagined either, but as Mr Fix It says " it is what it is " so we must carry on, carrying on.

Sending both of you many hugs xx

maddiemay

TA - what a beautiful, but sad day you are having. I hope that Bob feels like a little taste of the Baileys (unless he hates it of course). Rather moist eyes reading your post, I am new around here and you don't know me, but I send caring vibes and good wishes to you all.
Silver-oldie, we do the best that we can to suit the circumstances at any given time, I understand you being sad at lost opportunities, but you have nothing to reproach yourself for, you are a loving, caring wife, mother and daughter and I wish that others appreciated you. (((Hugs)))
Scarletribbons - OH has just informed me that it was Souter we visited.
NRA - happy anniversary to you too.

Mother was in good spirits, although I know she is concerned about the future, medically she is pretty good, but her joints are wrecked with Osteoarthritis, she is not a candidate for joint replacement as both legs are bad and she is far too overweight. It has taught me a hard lesson about keeping mobile and only eating what my body needs to help with my own joint problems.

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Just a quick pop in to say I am delighted you had a good day TA, I am sure just a taste of Baileys will be alright. As always my thoughts are with you and your family. xxx

Olliebeak1951

Mrs TA - not the 'ideal situation', but what a wonderful day for you and Bob celebrating your Anniversary ................... and surrounded by all your family as well. Hope he managed a sip of Bailey's !

silver-oldie - just to repeat what others have said, we ALL do what we can, when we can, with the best of intentions at the time. Not one of us knows what the future brings - and 'hindsight' is a wonderful thing - or, in some cases, a nasty monster that tries to give us 'guilt-trips' that we need to ignore.

My own DDad never got the opportunity to retire - he passed way too young, at the age of 54, after a lifetime of working all hours to support our family. DMum lived with my DSis till she passed at the age of 84 (four years ago) - she used to remind us all that she'd been a widow for longer than she was a wife :doh: :eek:. DSis retired a couple of years ago, but had two ruptured aneurysms a few days before last Christmas - so scary thinking about how she looked after our Mum and then for that to happen to her .................

We ALL need to remember to make the most of our families while we have them with us - I only ever bought my DDad ONE Father's Day Card, 20th June 1982 - he passed on the 25th .

((((Healing Hugs)))) and prayers for everybody :heart2:

newroadahead

Dear All

Thank you all for your good wishes, reading them and your wishes for the TA's bought tears to my eyes.

Like many on here I have also seen family pass before their time my Dmum at only 45 when I was a a little girl, then Ddad lost 2 more wives after seeing them trough their struggles with cancer and other illness.

My DH gave me a beautifully worded card today, to many in my family he is a bit of a one, but he is my one and even though I know he can be annoying he is my annoying one. Sorry I am probably not making a lot of sense but I think we all have struggles in our lives and deal with them in our own way.

I am so glad the TA's had a good day as I hope everyone else has, we have all been blessed with such lovely weather.

I hope everyone has a good week

NRA xxxx

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So glad you made it together Mr & Mrs TA and although its been a tough one, well done for sticking with it and celebrating ,even if he had a bit of 'reading the back of his eyelids' time I'm sure that wee dram of Baileys can't do much harm.The coming weeks and months will not be easy for you honey, but today is one you will remember and treasure.

My thoughts are with you and your family

Much love 'n' light

JackieO xx

topsyturphy

TA So glad you reached your wedding anniversary, I can only echo what everyone has said so well. The love you share shines through from your
Posts. Hope Bob enjoyed his sip of Baileys. Sending you strength, love and hugs to you all.

Silver oldie - sorry to hear that you have so much to cope with. Sending ((hugs))
Csarina hope you are sleeping better and the carers are helping you to care for your dh.

Hollyharvey - hope you have a lovely day with your family tomorrow. You sound more positive with your planning. Thinking of you.

Lame wolf - sorry to hear of your dh diagnosis, thinking of you and your dh.

Hugs to anyone that needs/wants one. Take care