I’m I being unfair?

redlove

We have been together for 18 years and have children, One of which has special needs. Due to my sons condition I decided that buying a puppy would be a great idea to ensure he had company and he could take the dog on walks etc. I have never had a pet before.

I have not bonded whatsoever with the dog and absolutely detest having an animal in my home. I hate the smell, hairs everything to do with having a dog. I have tried for three years to change my feelings but I cannot.

My partner does all the caring but the dog is walked once a day due to work commitments and the dogs life is hardly ideal.

I have asked and asked for the dog to be rehomed and he won’t hear of it even though it would mean a much better life for the dog he loves.

I know the kids would not forgive me and my partner too but I am really feeling so frustrated with this situation. I feel completely unheard and my feelings are not being taken into account.

This is causing a lot of stress and unhappiness

No family members will re home the dog.

BrassicWoman

hire a dog walker.

ska_lover

redlove wrote: »

have children, One of which has special needs. Due to my sons condition I decided that buying a puppy would be a great idea .....

I have not bonded whatsoever with the dog and absolutely detest having an animal in my home......
My partner does all the caring ......
I have asked and asked for the dog to be rehomed and he won’t hear of it even though it would mean a much better life for the dog he loves....I know the kids would not forgive me and my partner too but I am really feeling so frustrated with this situation. I feel completely unheard and my feelings are not being taken into account.
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Yes you are being unfair. Everything you type is just ugly.

okborednow

I’m a person who absolutely loves animals so I do struggle to understand. Can I just check what it is you hate about the dog? Is it the hairs, smell etc or do you just feel life is stressful and busy enough and this is an extra responsibility you don’t need? I know it must feel terribly unfair for you but as someone who grew up with animals I would have been devastated if my mum had given one of our dogs away so is it really something you can’t live with?

marliepanda

The dog doesn’t deserve you.

I’d suggest it rehomes you.

Spendless

I have resisted having a dog for years because I know it would restrict my life and become 'my' job. It's not that I don't like dogs, so I can understand where you're coming from. We're now at a point where a dog would help with some help with some issues my DD is having, but at the same time they;re likely to be dealt with and we'll still have the responsibility of a dog.

I think perhaps you break down what exactly it is you don't like and address each issue separately.

boliston

dogs are a major commitment (like having a child) - perhaps a cat would have been better?

iammumtoone

This is not about your dog, or your partner (as an adult they will get over it)


It is about your children, I can't believe any parent would take something away from them they love.


Would you consider re-homing one of your children - No, well that's the way the other members of the family will view your re homing of the dog

Mr_Costcutter

I'm afraid I don't think you're being fair! If the hairs/smell were likely to have been an issue then maybe you should have chosen a breed such as a poodle. Anyway, most responsible dog owners ensure their dog is brushed/bathed to help eliminate some of the problems you describe.

Brummie85

We took in our dog from a rehoming centre and I just don't understand why anyone would give him up or not claim him if he was lost. It took him months to settle in with us and even now (3 years on) he has days where he looks sad and will mostly ignore us. He has 2 nice beds, gets food and treats, we play with him, walk him, give him loads of attention etc. We love him dearly. He's normally quite happy, but we can only guess that he still misses his old family sometimes.

You can't really give the dog up now. Your family see it as family and the dog considers you all family as well. If the dog was bad tempered or aggressive, had problem behaviour etc then maybe. But if the only problem is that you don't feel like you want the dog anymore - that's unfair. It's a commitment that you should keep.

ibizafan_2

Poor, poor dog.